On this week’s episode of The Real Housewives of New York City, Bethenny revealed a huge secret about the late Dennis Shields.
Her tensions with Ramona were also on display, but fans can’t stop thinking about something Ramona had said.
She had majorly insulted Dennis over his drug use. Now, Ramona is apologizing publicly and profusely.
“How smart can Dennis be?” viewers heard Ramona ask rhetorically in footage from this season of The Real Housewives of New York City.
To make matters worse, she said: “I mean, he was on drugs.”
To be absolutely clear, this scene was filmed before Dennis Shields passed away last year.
In fact, it was reportedly filmed three weeks before his tragic death.
Viewers recoiled when she said that — and, in hindsight, so does Ramona.
To say that Ramona regrets her words is an understatement.
Taking to her Instagram Stories ahead of Wednesday’s episode,Â
“I cringed when I saw what I said about Dennis in tonight’s episode,” Ramona’s heartfelt post begins.
She freely admits: “It definitely wasn’t one of my finer moments.”
“I respected and liked him very much,” Ramona affirms.
Sometimes, people make cutting remarks about people whom they respect — especially when they are on camera and are aiming for a reaction.
“And,” she adds. “I sincerely apologize to his family and Bethenny for my thoughtless comments.”
That is a good apology, neither making it all about her nor understating how cruel the statement was.
To be clear, it was an unkind statement even before Shields’ death.
Addiction is not a measure of intelligence.
In a recent post on Twitter, Bethenny reflected upon the nature of grief.
“Mourning is tricky business,” Bethenny acknowledged at the beginning of her tweet.
“Itâ€™s like the weather,” she observed.
Bethenny explains her analogy: “There can be weeks & weeks of sunshine then one day you get whacked with a storm.”
She is absolutely right.
Certain stories, photographs, songs, and scents can bring all of that grief crashing down yet again.
Shortly after Shields’ tragic passing, Bethenny shared her feelings at the time as she was overwhelmed with loss.
“It’s hard to breathe & I appreciate you giving me the space & support to try to do so,” she wrote on social media.
“It’s excruciating-sudden death is no closure & constant ?s & memories,” she shared.
None of us are at our best when we are deep in mourning.
“Our relationship is current so it’s painfully raw,” she revealed.
Bethenny concluded by saying that she was “Trying to stay healthy & move through it w tears & close friends.”
Bethenny is widely beloved, but she can be controversial at times.
It goes with the territory when you’re a Real Housewife.
But any feuds or petty arguments can and must be set aside when someone is dealing with real, personal pain.
The worst reality stars are the ones who don’t know when to quit and back off.
Ramona admitted in a recent episode to having “tension” with Bethenny, but she has her limits.
We’re sure that she’d give anything to take back that offhand remark from last year.