21 Strange Duggar Family Rules That Are Somehow Still a Thing

The Duggar family’s unusual dating (sorry, courting) rules had been well documented long before they were embroiled in scandal.

Once Josh Duggar’s child molestation history – and brazen adultery – was exposed, the family has been under a microscope.

Yet, despite his hypocrisy, and the fact that their every move is under heavier scrutiny than ever, they weather every storm.

TLC axed 19 Kids & Counting, only to quickly come back with Counting On, featuring the same Duggars and their beliefs.

Well, sans the radioactive Josh.

That’s a bridge too far for even the hard core believers. But when it comes to the Arkansas family’s core values, they stand firm.

Their belief system certainly requires conviction in order to practice, since their list of policies for love and life is not short.

Despite Joy breaking rules, Jinger’s new life in L.A. and Derick Dillard’s sex on the brain (so weird), the rules are no joke.

Here are 21 of the most bizarre.

1. Dates Without Chaperones

Duggar daughters
The Duggar parents often accompany their kids on dates in order to maintain “accountability” and “keep things from going in the wrong direction,” per Jim Bob. The girls are fine with this, as being alone with men puts them in grave “moral danger.” When the parents aren’t available, their older siblings will often tag along, making every date a group date and a family affair.

2. Non-Group Texts

Jessa duggar and ben seewald engagement
Even in the kids’ late teens and early 20s, mom and dad are creeping on their text messages. When Ben Seewald jokingly wrote to fiancee Jessa, “Give me a ring,” Jim Bob actually jumped in on the group text, writing “No ring yet.” With a smiley face emoticon. Seriously, he did that. Whatever you think of him, Jim Bob needs his own Instagram so he can start posting screen shots of this stuff.

3. Hugs on the Chest

Derick and jill dillard pregnant
This moment you see here between Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard would not have been permitted until the couple was married. Side hugs are the preferred method of PDA in order to prevent any further temptation or “hanky panky,” as has been well documented on 19 Kids and Counting. The Duggars love their side hugs so hard … though not too too hard, lest they lead to full-frontal hugging. And any touching beyond that? Save it for your wedding night.

4. Riding in Cars Together

Kendra caldwell joseph duggar
It’s no secret that the Duggars have strict dating rules. We’ve talked about some already and there are plenty more to come on this list. But one of the most bizarre was revealed only recently in an episode in which Joseph and Kendra Caldwell officially started courting. They were seen in a car, driving together … with one of the younger Duggar sitting in between them in the front seat of a pickup truck. Shortly after the courtship “proposal,” she was allowed to slide almost all the way over to Joseph. Not close enough for any inappropriate touching, obviously, but without another dude in between, which is mandatory during the “just friends” phase. Wow.

5. Co-Ed Hide and Seek

Duggars
In the wake of the Josh Duggar molestation scandal going public years later, Jim Bob and Michelle gave in interview in which they talked about all of the things they did in its aftermath. In between blaming Josh’s indiscretions on being a curious pubescent boy, they discussed family rules that resulted from this, such as the children no longer being allowed to play co-ed hide and seek. That’s right, no two children regardless of age are allowed to go off alone, even in the context of this childhood pastime. How much that really helps the situation they were responding to remains to be seen.

6. Alcohol

Jill duggar and derick dillard together
This is probably an obvious one if you know anything about the Duggars. The family does not smoke or drink. They do, however, enjoy the occasional sugary dessert or getting high on life and love.

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Duggar Family: Still Abusing Kids With Parenting Methods?

Whether you’re a fan of Counting On or you simply watch the Duggars from a safe distance out of morbid curiosity, you have some sense of who and what you’re dealing with.

Put another way, you’re probably aware that the family’s belief system, and by extension, their child-rearing methods have been a frequent source of controversy.

Practices such as “blanket training” and other forms of systematic abuse have led to calls for boycotts and even demands for a full CPS investigation in the past.

But the Duggars have refused to shy away or even issue a public apology, which isn’t surprising – and now it looks like these lessons are being handed down.

According to a report from In Touch Weekly, it looks as though the torch is being passed from one generation to the next, in disturbing fashion.

Are Jim Bob and Michelle’s grown children now practicing the same techniques that were used to quite literally whip them into shape in their own youth?

Understandably, fans are terrified that this continued behavior and methodology may eventually result in someone paying the ultimate price.

1. The Originators

Jim bob duggar and michelle duggar picture
Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have strict views on child-rearing and family hierarchies that were formed in part by their involvement with the unfortunately-named Bill Gothard’s Institute for Basic Life Principles.

2. The Fallen Idol

Bill gothard
Those who follow Gothard may now that he got what was coming to him. He is now a disgraced former minister who was drummed out his own organization after being accused of abuse and sexual assault by dozens of employees.

3. The Stubborn Ones

Jim bob and michelle today
Despite the scandal, and attempts to distance themselves from him from an image standpoint, Jim Bob and Michelle have remained true to Gothard’s teachings, including two beliefs that have attracted a considerable amount of criticism in recent years.

4. Full Quivers

The duggar family picture
Gothard is the originator of the Quiverfull Movement, which holds and practices the belief that women are put on this planet for the sole purpose of birthing as many children as possible.

5. A Dangerous Proposition

Michelle duggar crazy eyes
This isn’t a vaguely-defined “the bigger family, the better” sort of deal. According to Gothard’s teachings, women are to continue having children until they literally cannot bear any more of them. That means they are expected to conceive well into middle-age, regardless of threats to their health or the health of their offspring.

6. Casting Pearls Before Swine

Michael and debi pearl
It was also Gothard who directed Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar to the controversial teachings of self-proclaimed child-rearing experts Debi and Michael Pearl.

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Derick Dillard’s Brother Revealed to Be Opioid-Addicted Atheist?

It doesn’t take much to stir up controversy in the Duggar family.

The Counting On Clan is so ultra-conservative that the sight of female Duggar wearing pants instead of a floor-length skirt is enough to spark a heated debate.

So you can imagine Jim Bob and Michelle’s chagrin over Derick Dillard and the extent to which Jill Duggar’s husband seems to revel in stirring up scandals.

As you probably know, Derick was fired from Counting On back in 2017 after making bigoted comments about a trans teen on social media.

Jill quit the show as a show of solidarity, and the couple has been doing some serious belt-tightening ever since.

The Duggars preach that material wealth is a sign of God’s love and approval, so they’re probably not thrilled about Derick’s decision to toss a couple of six-figure careers out the window.

But at least Jim Bob and Michelle can be glad that Jill didn’t wind up with Derick’s brother Dan.

If you follow the family closely, you may know that the Duggars had some misgivings about Jill marrying into the Dillard clan, primarily because his family is made up of relatively normal people with normal problems.

The Dillards are conservative evangelicals, just like the Duggars (otherwise, the union would not have been approved), but they’re not wealthy, and they’re not as absurdly orthodox in their religious beliefs.

The family has endured a number of hardships, including the death of Derick’s father, as well as his mother’s battle with stage four non-Hodgkins lymphoma.

Now, Cathy Dillard has detailed her fight with cancer as well as some other family travails, in the dramatically-titled memoir, I Shall Not Die: My Walk Through the Valley of Death.

But thus far, the media focus on the book has had less to do with Cathy’s cancer and more to do with hints that her son Dan was briefly a non-believer with a major substance abuse problem.

“As I recall, he described how he had been running from God, and he had finally quit running and surrendered, letting Jesus come in and take over,� Cathy writes.

“He now realized that had been a decision of his head and not his heart,� she continues.

“He had grown up in church and knew all the right things to do and say, but in his words, he had ‘been living a double life.’ He never turned his life over to Jesus.�

Dan’s Facebook post seems to corroborate his mother’s account of his “misspent” youth.

The father of one revealed that he was on “a path to self-destruction” as recently as 2016.

“The past year has been an incredibly difficult journey full of struggles and pain, but one that I have not had to go through alone,� Dan wrote at the time.

“This journey is only beginning. If you are reading this, know that I am praying for you and what you are going through right now.�

While neither Dan nor his mother went into detail regarding his struggles, fans have reached some conclusions based on his involvement in the fight against opioid addiction.

“Enjoyed speaking today at our Boone County Opioid Prevention Project kickoff,� Dan recently wrote on Instagram.

“Thanks to the Criminal Justice Institute for their partnership in this initiative #DFC #CJI #Prevention #ReversingTrends.�

Whatever his struggles may have been, however, Dan seems to have arrived at a happy ending — he and wife Deena welcomed a baby boy in September.

Jill Duggar & Derick Dillard: We Banged All Night on Our Anniversary!

We probably don’t need to tell you that the Duggars have some … interesting ideas regarding sex and romance.

Prior to marriage, virtually all forms of physical contact are forbidden, which has resulted in the advent of such infamous Duggar customs as “side hugs.”

But once the rings are on the fingers, all bets are off.

Not only are married Duggars instructed to get freaky with their significant others on a regular basis, they’re also encouraged to tell the whole world about it.

The purpose of this abrupt, 180-degree turn is two-fold:

Firstly, the Duggars are taught from a young age that procreation is basically their sole reason for being — and lots of unprotected sex can lead to lots of offspring.

But that’s not the only reason that the Duggars like to shout about their sex lives from the highest church steeple.

They’re firm believers that divine grace often manifests as material reward.

In other words, God expresses His fondness for his favorite followers by giving them the good life.

That’s why the Duggars like to subtly remind fans of how rich they are — and it’s also why they claim to have sex lives that would make Hugh Hefner blush.

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard are the latest to take part in this strange custom.

Last week, the couple celebrated their five-year wedding anniversary in Branson, Missouri (to each their own) and they gushed about the experience on Instagram.

Jill posted a series of photos from the weekend, along with a lengthy caption.

“We had a wonderful 5yr. anniversary weekend in Branson, MO!” she wrote.

“We stayed at a bed and breakfast, then hung out at Silver Dollar City part of the time and saw our friends @southernraisedbandmusic perform,” Jill continued.

“Derick surprised me with an amazing dinner (& lovely view!) @thekeetercenter at #collegeoftheozarks (highly recommend! Such a neat place.”

All pretty wholesome so far — but at that point, the photo album goes from color to fifty shades of gray.

Jill posted this pic which hints at the couple’s late-night activities.

Jill and Derick

She captioned it:

“Thanks @datingdivas for the fun games and ideas! If you don’t know about them, check them out!! They’ve got lots of fun, clean, date/marriage tips and ideas! “

Okay, so obviously it was sponsored content, but still …

The Kama Sutra, sex games, Skittles, for some reason — we didn’t know you had it in you Dillards!

After that, it was back aboard the wholesome train for a Sunday matinee showing of Toy Story 4.

“We ended our trip with a fun afternoon at the movies watching #toystory4 lol,” Jill wrote.

Lol, indeed!

The contrast is amusing, but interestingly, Jim Bob is probably most upset about the Toy Story pic.

After all, in his book, secular entertainment is far more sinful than some Jesus-sanctioned butt stuff!

21 Bizarre Duggar Family Rules: The Things They Don’t Allow …

The Duggar family’s unusual dating rules had been well documented long before the Arkansans were embroiled in scandal.

Once Josh Duggar’s child molestation history – and brazen adultery – was exposed, they’ve been under a microscope since.

Yet, despite his hypocrisy, and the fact that their every move is under heavier scrutiny all the time, they weather the storm.

TLC axed 19 Kids & Counting, only to quickly come back with Counting On, featuring the same Duggars and their beliefs.

Well, sans Josh. That’s a bridge too far for even the hard core believers. But when it comes to core values, they stand firm.

Their belief system certainly requires conviction in order to practice, since their list of policies for love and life is not short.

Despite Joy-Anna Duggar breaking rules, or modest shifts (Jinger rebelling and Jill distancing herself), the rules are no joke.

Here are 21 things the Duggars do not allow …

1. Dates Without Chaperones

Duggar daughters
The Duggar parents often accompany their kids on dates in order to maintain “accountability” and “keep things from going in the wrong direction,” per Jim Bob. The girls are fine with this, as being alone with men puts them in grave “moral danger.” When the parents aren’t available, their older siblings will often tag along, making every date a group date and a family affair.

2. Non-Group Texts

Jessa duggar and ben seewald engagement
Even in the kids’ late teens and early 20s, mom and dad are creeping on their text messages. When Ben Seewald jokingly wrote to fiancee Jessa, “Give me a ring,” Jim Bob actually jumped in on the group text, writing “No ring yet.” With a smiley face emoticon. Seriously, he did that. Whatever you think of him, Jim Bob needs his own Instagram so he can start posting screen shots of this stuff.

3. Hugs on the Chest

Derick and jill dillard pregnant
This moment you see here between Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard would not have been permitted until the couple was married. Side hugs are the preferred method of PDA in order to prevent any further temptation or “hanky panky,” as has been well documented on 19 Kids and Counting. The Duggars love their side hugs so hard … though not too too hard, lest they lead to full-frontal hugging. And any touching beyond that? Save it for your wedding night.

4. Riding in Cars Together

Kendra caldwell joseph duggar
It’s no secret that the Duggars have strict dating rules. We’ve talked about some already and there are plenty more to come on this list. But one of the most bizarre was revealed only recently in an episode in which Joseph and Kendra Caldwell officially started courting. They were seen in a car, driving together … with one of the younger Duggar sitting in between them in the front seat of a pickup truck. Shortly after the courtship “proposal,” she was allowed to slide almost all the way over to Joseph. Not close enough for any inappropriate touching, obviously, but without another dude in between, which is mandatory during the “just friendsâ€� phase. Wow.

5. Co-Ed Hide and Seek

Duggars
In the wake of the Josh Duggar molestation scandal going public years later, Jim Bob and Michelle gave in interview in which they talked about all of the things they did in its aftermath. In between blaming Josh’s indiscretions on being a curious pubescent boy, they discussed family rules that resulted from this, such as the children no longer being allowed to play co-ed hide and seek. That’s right, no two children regardless of age are allowed to go off alone, even in the context of this childhood pastime. How much that really helps the situation they were responding to remains to be seen.

6. Alcohol

Jill duggar and derick dillard together
This is probably an obvious one if you know anything about the Duggars. The family does not smoke or drink. They do, however, enjoy the occasional sugary dessert or getting high on life and love.

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