Days ago, Southern Charm fans recoiled in horror after a photo of Kathryn Dennis and Thomas Ravenel together surfaced online.
Now, Thomas’ infamous ex, Ashley Jacobs, is weighing in — calling them both “toxic.”
Ashley Jacobs has moved on from Thomas Ravenel, but she’s telling Us Weekly that she reached out to him after the recent photo surfaced.
Ashley says that she found a way to “kind of poke fun” at the rumors of reconciliation.
“I took a screenshot of [the news] and I sent it to him,” she shares.
Smart. The last time that Ashley showed up physically to speak her mind, she was escorted out by security.
So, what message did she send to her awful ex?
Ashley reveals: “I said, ‘Congratulations.’”
“And,” she shares, “he has not responded.”
That is probably for the best for everyone involved, for a long, long list of reasons.
However, that doesn’t mean that Ashley is totally condemning Thomas and Kathryn for spending time together … at a party.
“My only thought is, if it’s for the children, then great, you know,” Ashley reasons.
Thomas and Kathryn share two young children, Kensie and Saint.
They are committed to co-parenting.
“I will never understand,” Ashley comments, referring to Thomas and Kathryn.
She’s lived the life of being Thomas’ girlfriend, and she knows better than most how much it can screw with your head.
“I think, you know, you never realize how toxic something is until you walk away from it,” Ashley expresses.
She adds: “or meet someone who’s emotionally stable.”
While Ashley was known for her emotional outbursts on camera, Thomas is said to have a “dark side” and nasty outbursts with the women in his life.
But Ashley says that she is optimistic about her life “and I’m all about healthy relationships from here on out.”
She herself has a new boyfriend.
As far as things with Thomas and Kathryn are concerned, Ashley has a little shade to throw.
“I guess toxic attracts toxic,” she expresses. Oof.
She acknowledges that the two of them have “lot of baggage.”
In some cultures, said baggage is known as “children” and referred to by name. (Okay, we kid — their baggage goes way deeper than that)
“I think that they’re the only ones that are ever going to be able to see … I think that’s the best they’re ever going to get,” Ashley states.
“I hate to say that,” she quickly adds, “because I think everyone deserves happiness.”
It sounds like Ashley is saying that Kathryn and Thomas may be emotionally entangled in ways that are unhealthy for both of them.
“But you know,” Ashley remarks, “if that makes them happy, again, to each their own.”
She then affirms: “but that is not a way to live.”
Ashley is displaying a lot of personal growth for a woman who once made the entire Southern Charm star cast cringe on camera.
Honestly it’s weird that either Ashley or Kathryn ever dated Thomas.
One only has to scroll thorugh his Twitter feed to note that he’s not only unlikeable, but undeserving of love itself.
Doing so, you’ll eventually run across his tweet from earlier this week, in which he denies that he and Kathryn are dating gagian.
“No, we’re doing some things together because it makes the kids very happy to see us getting along,” Thomas tweeted on January 13.
“And in this matter,” he added with his usual pompous flair, “our interests are perfectly aligned.”
Meanwhile, Kathryn took a tongue-in-cheek approach to replying to fan speculation.
When one commenter remarked that clearly, Charleston has a shortage of worthy men, Kathryn wrote: “correct.”
Late last year, Kathryn Dennis and Thomas Ravenel resolved their custody case. The exes share two young children.
To everyone’s collective horror, the two were spotted together at a party recently. Are they really back together?
Southern Charm star Kathryn Dennis was photographed alongside her baby daddy.
She and disgraced former reality star and failed politician Thomas Ravenel were attending a James Bond-motif party.
They looked awfully chummy for a pair of bitter exes who were so recently locking horns in family court.
It is only natural that Kathryn’s many fans and followers feared that she was making a catastrophic mistake.
“Be a positive role model for your daughter, at least,” writes one scolding fan on Kathryn’s Instagram, referring to young Kensie.
That same commenter adds: “This is disgusting.”
“No no no no no!!!” another commenter expresses. “Co-parenting, yes. Posing on social media as a couple, oh god no!”
That follower advised Kathryn to “binge watch past seasons if you need your memory refreshed.”
That last bit is actually very good advice for any reality star whose partner’s douchiness was readily apparent on screen.
“I’m convinced there’s a shortage of real men in your town,” suggests one of Kathryn’s fans in yet another comment.
As captured by the good folks over at The Ashley, Kathryn responded to that particular fan’s suggestion.
“Correct,” Kathryn writes. Oof.
That’s quite the damning indictment of Charleston’s male population.
We imagine that the viewers have come to that conclusion based upon watching Southern Charm.
Kathryn, meanwhile, has come to agree based upon her dating experiences.
Of course, that’s not to say that Kathryn hasn’t had negative experiences with women in her city, too. Remember her feud with Ashley Jacobs?
Kathryn stuck to her tongue-in-cheek responses when it came to questions about her romantic life.
But taking to Twitter, it was actually Thomas who cleared the air on whether or not they’re seeing each other again.
“No, we’re doing some things together because it makes the kids very happy to see us getting along,” Thomas explained.
He added: “And in this matter, our interests are perfectly aligned.”
Kathryn and Dennis’ young children are Kensie and Saint.
After Thomas Ravenel’s arrest for battery in a case in which he eventually pleaded guilty, Kathryn filed for full custody of her children.
Both she and Thomas accused each other of drug use.
Kathryn also, with witness corroboration, accused Thomas of vile mistreatment of her during their erstwhile relationship.
Normally people are happy to see two co-parents come together to support their children. And, to a certain extent, that is still the case here.
But Thomas isn’t just an accused rapist whose own alleged friends admit that he has a “dark side.” He’s also a colossal jerk.
Kathryn’s fans would hate to see her repeat past mistakes, namely entering a toxic relationship with a terrible man.
Unless she gets very lucky, she will always be linked to Thomas through their children. Let’s hope that they both stick to co-parenting, okay?
For months, Kathryn Dennis has been afraid that Thomas Ravenel will take her kids, Kensie and Saint.
Now, her fears have become reality.
The couple has signed a new agreement, which awards primary custody to the disgraced former politician.
All About The Tea got their hands on court documents sharing the grim news.
On Friday, November 1, a document signed by both parties was registered in South Carolina family court.
According to the agreement, they retain a 50/50 split of legal custody of Kensie and Saint.
But primary physical custody is awarded to Thomas.
The agreement has some very faint silver linings.
For example, Thomas has to consult with Kathryn — a precariously vague stipulation — on more or less everything about the kids.
That includes but is not limited to their education, extra-curricular activities, religious training, non-emergency healthcare, and general welfare.
However, if the two of them cannot reach an accord, Thomas just gets to override Kathryn and do whatever he wants. Ugh.
Thomas, who of course is a rich man from a rich family, does have to foot the bill for his kids.
That includes him paying for medical insurance, private school tuition, and all extracurricular activities for Kensie and Saint.
He also has to pay child support, and foot the bill for Kathryn’s new nanny.
Oh, and she absolutely must hire a nanny.
The agreement stipulates that Kathryn must employ a full time nanny, from 8 AM to 6 PM, on school days when she has the kids.
Kathryn will have the kids every other Thursday afternoon until the following Monday, which is … not an ideal amount of time to spend with them.
This nanny will have to be vetted by Thomas, which is more than a little sick.
After all, he pleaded guilty to assault and battery against a previous nanny for these same children.
Kathryn and Dennis are not allowed to have any romantic sleepovers while the kids are in their care.
They are forbidden from showing the children any clips of Southern Charm.
Both exes are banned from badmouthing each other in front of the kids, or allowing others to do so on their behalf.
They also cannot disparage each other over social media.
So … what does all of this mean?
The short version is that, though Kathryn has made some headway in the past couple of years, Thomas .. won.
Kathryn gets to spend about a quarter of every fortnight with her children, while Thomas gets them for the rest of the time.
It sounds like winter break gets a pretty even split, so … yay?
Why did Kathryn lose? Could it really be that her recent car accidents alone cost her custody?
(If so, we would absolutely beg her to get a driver. The fact that any rich people drive themselves is mind-boggling)
The imbalance in this result has led some Southern Charm fans to believe that Thomas came up with some sort of blackmail to coerce her to sign.
While nothing about Thomas’ criminal record or personal history suggests that he’d never do such a thing, we have an alternative theory.
Thomas is the wealthier of the two, and that counts for a lot in court. Also, in most cases of contested custody, the father wins.
Attending the Southern Charm Reunion special was hard enough for Kathryn Dennis when her thoughts were clearly on her ugly custody battle.
When some of her castmates began to call her out, she became downright fearful.
She openly confessed to them that she’s terrified that her disgraced ex Thomas Ravenel will use their words against her in court.
Danni Baird was the most supportive of Kathryn, but she did acknowledge that Kathryn had been distant from her castmates.
“Kathryn gets a lot of passes,” Danni stated on Wednesday night’s Reunion Special.
“It can be perceived as being a little obnoxious or irresponsible,” she admitted.
Note how she’s not accusing Kathryn of being either — just acknowledging that the perception may exist.
Danni is firmly in Kathryn’s corner, which is good. She needs that right now.
Kathryn explained why she so often misses calls from her friends.
“I’m used to my phone ringing and it being Thomas or my lawyer or getting news about something else that’s not good,” the mother-of-two shared.
Cameran Eubanks pointed out why avoidance is not the best strategy for her.
“But you cannot alienate other people in your life who do not have ill intentions for you,” she told Kathryn. “Because you’re going through that.”
That’s solid reasoning. This is the last moment when Kathryn should be alienating her friends.
As criticisms mounted — including Austen’s complaints about Kathryn’s behavior on Watch What Happens Live — Kathryn grew visibly concerned.
Almost uncharacteristically subdued at times, she was also very blunt about why she didn’t like hearing everyone’s critiques.
“Thomas is going to bring this up in court just so everyone knows,” Kathryn lamented.
She pleaded with her castmates to understand that she is “trying my best” despite everything.
“The focus is on my kids,” Kathryn affirmed. “I can’t be a great friend to anyone [right now].”
The beautiful Naomie Olindo acknowledged that the entire cast is sympathetic to Kathryn’s very delicate situation.
“That’s why no one can ever say anything,” Naomie said.
She explained that this is “because we don’t want to get in the way of your custody and all that.”
Thomas Ravenel is far from the first bitter ex to use words bandied on reality television in custody court.
Danni pointed out that Kathryn is more dependable than people think.
“I can depend on Kathryn, but not all the time,” she said honestly.
Kathryn and Thomas now share custody of their children. It’s not quite what either of them wanted.
Additionally, the judge laid down restrictions upon both her and Thomas.
Both have to seek permission from the other in order to bring a significant other around Kensie and Saint.
Either of them may drug test the other at random with very little notice, with results to be shared with the court.
Most significantly, Kathryn is enjoined from drinking while she has physical custody of her children — and so is Thomas.
She also laid down the law with Austren Kroll, warning her that he does not get to question her about her sobriety.
One, she worked very hard after her nightmare of a relationship with Thomas to get to where she is.
Two, every word that he says on camera can and probably will be used as a weapon against her in court.
Kathryn Dennis is not f–king around, you guys.