Ethan Slater‘s estranged wife Lilly Jay has been making headlines for days after it was discovered that he has been dating his Wicked co-star Ariana Grande.

Now, she’s making her very first statement since the 31-year-old actor filed for divorce. Reports emerged earlier this week that Lilly was surprised by the sudden split and she even knew Ariana personally.

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“[Ariana’s] the story really. Not a girl’s girl,” Lilly told Page Six. “My family is just collateral damage.”

She said she’s focused on being “a good mom” to their son, who is going to be one soon.

“The story is her and Dalton,” Lilly added, referencing Ariana‘s separation from her husband of nearly two years, Dalton Gomez.

Meanwhile, a separate insider told Page Six about Lilly, “She’s rightfully upset because her marriage fell apart, but Ariana and Ethan didn’t do anything wrong. Ethan is trying to take the high road and hopes he can resolve this situation for the sake of their child.” The source allegedly said that Ethan and Lilly had been separated for 2 months before he began “romancing” Ariana. It’s unclear what really happened.

Find out where Ethan and Ariana stand and if they’re actually still dating.