We got more insight into what went wrong in Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez‘s marriage!

Last year, the 55-year-old singer joined a loooong list of celebrities like Kendall Jenner, Blake Lively, and George Clooney to launch an alcohol brand. She released a whole line of bottled-cocktails called Delola. When her boozy beverages dropped, fans slammed her product. Not only is Jennifer herself not that big a drinker, hubby Ben is FAMOUSLY sober after a NOTORIOUS years-long battle with the poison. He struggled with alcohol addiction for so long! So it’s just odd to create such a product given the history! Needless to say, it was seen by many as nothing more than a “money grab.”

And her fans aren’t the only ones who hated the brand! Ben wasn’t down for it, either! In fact, friends close to the filmmaker claimed to Dailymail.com on Friday that he felt Jennifer creating these cocktails both insulted him and was dangerous to his sobriety. His alcoholism led to the downfall of his marriage to Jennifer Garner, so Ben understandably didn’t want to risk heading down that path again! However, the Hustlers star continued to sell the product anyway — something he, like many others, believed her only motivation for doing so was to make more money she didn’t need. Obviously, that hurt him.

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The wound only deepened as Ben thought she was “rubbing his face in it” — which was “sick” to him. Ultimately, the business venture was “one of the things that broke the camel’s back” and pushed him to end their marriage! The insider explained:

“Ben had to fight to get his life back after overcoming alcohol. Knowing how he lost everything including the love of his family, knowing that he could possibly relapse, Jen decided to start her own spritzer line for more money, as if she did not have enough. This was one of the things that broke the camel’s back. But Ben saved his sobriety.”

Oof. Of course, her alcohol line wasn’t the only issue the estranged couple had. Delola was just one of many warning signs to Ben that Jennifer prioritized her career over their marriage, per the outlet. As we’ve repeatedly heard amid their marital woes, he grew to dislike how much Jennifer loved to be in the spotlight as he is a pretty private person. At first, Ben tried to compromise. However, possibly too much because their differences came to a head this year and rocked their marriage:

“Ben was the one to pull the plug on their marriage here. Jennifer had him believe she was the same person that she was when they fell in love the first time, so he saw this as picking right back up. He doesn’t like the celebrity red carpet thing, but he did it because she loved it. Her obsession with fame became too much for him. She needed to be photographed and adored. She would share so much of herself with the world that he felt there was nothing left sacred for him. She needed to do this. This had become a part of who she was — fame.”

The source added that Jennifer – as she’s done in the past – “chose fame over” Ben:

“It wasn’t just a job, but a way of life for her and she could not give this act up in the end. She chose fame over him, just as she did with her previous three marriages.”

Damn…

But what did he expect? This is J.Lo we’re talking about here! She’s always loved the limelight. She likes to carefully craft her brand! That wasn’t a huge secret when they got married! Jennifer wasn’t just going to change who she was after all these years! Just saying!

Yet, as mentioned, Ben wasn’t on board with their private life being so public. Even when Jennifer created her latest album and documentary This Is Me… Now: A Love Story, he despised their love story being the focus of the projects! It turns out he didn’t even want her to do it! A source close to the pair shared:

“He didn’t want her to do this at all. She asked him to invest in it and be involved in a project he was absolutely against. In the end, he was glad it flopped. It too destroyed their marriage. Ben didn’t want it [their love story] to be told. Only she did. They lost £18 million and [it] ruined Ben’s trust in her. Ben seeing her spread their love letters on a table for others to read [as she did onscreen] infuriated him.”

That apparently was the moment “he knew that she put fame above love.” The insider continued:

“He asked her to not do the documentary because he wanted to keep this stuff private — and because it cost too much money — but she did it anyway. He asked her to pull back from doing red carpets and events so much and she wouldn’t listen. She dragged him out anyway. It was never about him. It was always about her.”

That same sentiment carried over to their marital home, which is currently on the market. They ”fought relentlessly” over the residence because of how expensive it was and didn’t feel like a home, one pal close to Ben noted:

“Buying that massive house was another huge red flag. He didn’t want that house because it cost a ridiculous amount of money. It never felt like home to him and he cannot even believe that he moved into the home. She didn’t want a marital home for them to grow old in. She wanted a massive structure that cost more than anyone else’s home to flaunt her wealth and her marriage in. She thought that this would make everyone happy.”

According to another source, the tension only grew when her career started to flop following the album. Jennifer allegedly would take it out on Ben:

“She became less popular, less people wanted to see her perform and this made her irate and she took it out on Ben. She started to realise her star was fading and he told her it was her own fault because she was overexposed. She took the fact that her documentary and album was a flop out on Ben because, as her husband, he was the closest one to her. He asked her to take a step back and she didn’t. He wasn’t a huge fan of her new album being so centred around him and she thought it was beautiful.”

Yikes!!! From what it sounds like, Bennifer should’ve never gotten back together! They are not on the same page! Despite their problems, though, the two did try to work on saving their marriage… While on separate coasts, Jennifer and Ben wrote love letters to each other – something they did at the very start of their relationship. But now? He’s just done. He has his own house and is ready to move on:

“She knows she destroyed it all and was super apologetic, but it was too late. He tried for a couple weeks, giving her the benefit of the doubt, and even wore the ring because she asked him to so that they could get a little space from the hounding Press, but he’s done. He found his own home and she is not living in it. It is in his name. She knows this and now it is time for them both to move on.”

Obviously, the writing was on the wall. A report even came out saying that the divorce docs “are finalized, but not yet turned in.” They are just waiting for the right time to make it official. When will that be? It’s unclear! But apparently, Ben is giving Jen “time to rebrand” first. Friends of the Let’s Get Loud artist said she’s doing a complete 180 on how she dresses and presents herself now:

“She is smiling in public, and she is not acting all like a diva. Her social media is bright and happy, and she is speaking about her true feelings of being fragile. She is staying out of the spotlight and keeping her life private.”

Jennifer is trying “to be the person that Ben thought she was all along” but he’s not falling for it:

“This made him fall in love with her, but he is not going to fall a third time. Two strikes she’s out. They are done.”

Even their kids, who wanted the duo to work things out, accepted it’s over between them! An insider said:

“It is hard on the kids, but in the end they are all pretty grown up. Enough grown up to be able to see that it was not working between their parents. The kids will be okay and will still be close. Becoming a family for a minute was fun and this will always be special in their hearts.”

So sad!!! We hate that their second chance at love failed! We wonder if J.Lo still thinks it was really worth it to start her own alcohol brand, create an album about Ben, and make a doc now… Reactions to the report, Perezcious readers? Sound OFF in the comments!

[Image via Jennifer Lopez/Instagram, The Late Late Show with James Corden/YouTube]

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