Usman Umar: I Didn’t Betray Kimberly by Calling Zara! It’s an Editing Trick!

On the 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Season 5 finale, viewers saw Usman call Zara.

Zara is a woman whom he used to date. “Zara” is a Sojaboy song, one that drove a wedge in his relationship with Kimberly.

At the Tell All, Kimberly saw that heartbreaking footage for the first time, and left the stage in tears.

Usman is defending his reputation, claiming that the cruel betrayal that viewers — and Kimberly — watched was an editing trick, nothing more.

Kimberly Menzies breaks down in tears on the Tell All

On Wednesday, April 6, Usman “Sojaboy” Umar took to Instagram to describe how he recalls filming that scene with Zara.

“In season 4 of Before the 90Days everyone watched me and know how truly I’m,” he began.

He is of course referring to his ill-fated romance and marriage with “Baby Girl” Lisa Hamme.

Kimberly Menzies witnesses Usman Umar's call to Zara on the Tell All

“Now am back with @itskimberly90 in season 5,” Usman acknowledged.

“We go up and down but we always fix our problems,” he claimed.

“Yes due to the age gap I was hesitating then,” Usman admitted.

Zara - hi Usman!

“And I don’t think I do anything wrong to care for myself before repeating my passed mistake,” Usman wrote.

“But and the end we make things work between @itskimberly90 and I,” he noted.

Usman went on: “only for me to see and hear that I called Zara after Kimberly left, that was not true.”

Usman Umar sings - Zara my baby yeah

“The call with Zara was 5 days out 21 days after I arrived in Zanzibar,” Usman claimed.

“And I never wanted to do it,” he added.

Usman detailed that “it took me 2 hours to be convinced.”

Usman Umar - I love that lady so much

“Despite the argument b4 making the call,” Usman added, “I blame myself for doing it.”

“But why telling the world that I make the call after Kim left???” he asked.

Usman accused: “That was never fair.”

Usman Umar checks himself in the mirror, tiddies out

“Look at kimberly during the shoot in Zanzibar and the recording on the tell all,” Usman instructed.

He told followers that “you will see the difference.”

Usman added: “I make her that glowing.”

Kimberly Menzies has strong opinions about Ella

“I have been good to that woman,” Usman wrote, “and she will testify that.”

He went on: “for those thinking Kimberly finance my life believe me i make more money than my woman Kim.”

“I wish Mom is alive,” Usman expressed, “she would have tell The World that Usman is a blessings to anyone around him.”

Usman Umar - Kimberly, don't cry

“But since kimberly knows all that,” Usman noted, “I believe that is what matters.”

He added: “I don’t need to say much.”

Usman concluded: “Pls tell my story how it’s don’t edit bcus next time I will not tolerate this “

Usman Umar IG Zara call scene filmed "before" Kimberly arrived

Usman also tagged Sharp Entertainment, expressing his anger and frustration at his portrayal.

Do we know if Usman is telling the truth about when he called Zara? We don’t.

Even if Zara participates in the Tell All, it’s unclear if all of this will come to light — if Usman clarified the timeline on the Tell All stage, it could still have been edited out.

Kimberly Menzies walks backstage at the Tell All

There is, however, clear precedent for the show editing footage to remove context and make cast members look worse than they are.

So many people think that the show is “scripted,” but they are mistaken — believe us, if there were a script, we’d be all over it.

The magic of reality television lies in casting, production, and editing. It sounds like Usman was probably a victim of the second and third.

90 Day Fiance Racism Scandals: Why Wasn’t Mike Berk Fired Like Alina Kasha?

Most of us were not surprised at Caleb and Alina’s absence from the 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Season 5 Tell All.

Months ago, Alina’s old posts resurfaced, involving racist slurs. After outcry from fans, TLC edited out the couple’s storyline.

But Mike Berk was at the Tell All to discuss his relationship with Ximena, even though his old posts are arguably worse in several ways.

Why the double standard? That’s what Alina is asking.

Alina Kasha discusses fairness on YouTube

Alina Kasha, whose real name is Alina Kozhevnikova, apologized after her scandal came to light.

(She initially denied that the posts were hers, but did ultimately issue an apology)

Now, she is wondering why Mike has not done the same … and why he’s not getting even close to as much backlash as she did.

Alina Kasha worries that her secret is being used as an excuse

Last week, just days before Part 1 of the Tell All aired, Alina released a YouTube video titled “It’s Always Bad.”

“When I don’t feel fairness,” she noted, “I can’t keep silent so I felt like I need to address it.”

Alina emphasized that she did not intend to “bash anyone” and that she does not have “any personal issues” with Mike.

Alina Kasha IG n-word caption beard post 2015

Alina acknowledged her own scandal, which came to light in January, much earlier in Season 5.

In posts dating back to around 2015, she had used, to put it bluntly, variations of the N-word, a racial slur that dehumanizes Black people.

Though she is Russian and English is a second language to her, her grasp of English and her having spent time in America made it difficult to understand how she could think that the slur was acceptable.

Alina Kasha IG apology for racist posts

After the outcry over her genuinely upsetting posts, Alina was fired, disinvited from the Tell All, and she and Caleb Greenwood were edited out of the rest of the season.

But last month, Mike’s old posts were discovered featuring the same abhorrent racial slur.

Mike, an American for whom English is his native language, has no cultural or linguistic excuses … and the content of his posts was more malicious.

Mike Berk IG "bad joke" racist slur

That right there? That’s not a “funny” joke, it’s a classic white supremacist talking point.

(Just for the record — because using SNAP or other assistance to eat and survive should not be stigmatized — more white people are on food stamps than any other group)

There’s no punchline to Mike’s old posts from 2013. Even without the slur, we’d still be staring bigotry in the face.

Mike Berk is straight up not having a good time

“Nothing was addressed when this same thing happened to my castmate,” Alina observed.

“He didn’t do anything, nor the network,” she noted — no public apology, no firing, no disinvitation from the Tell All.

“If we are all against racism,” Alina suggested, “let’s hold everybody to the same standards.”

Alina Kasha (preview) knows she has to tell Caleb

“To conclude, I feel like if someone is getting fired and another person does the same thing, they have to bear the same consequences,” Alina stated.

She explained: “It has to be addressed too if it was addressed before, and I think they should also apologize.”

Alina affirmed: “What’s unacceptable to one has to be unacceptable to another.”

Mike Berk cusses out Ximena, her family

A lot of fans of the show have been discussing this same thing.

(And some on social media have only just now learned of Mike’s scandal, while being very aware of Alina’s)

So why is there a double standard? Do TLC and Sharp only care about racism sometimes?

Mike Berk introduces himself on Season 5

Some have suggested that TLC and Sharp Entertainment don’t necessarily care about racism at all — not when it comes to firing people, anyway.

These are businesses, who fire people because they might cut into the show’s bottom line, not because of the moral weight of their scandal.

In short, Alina wasn’t fired for racism, she was fired for receiving intense backlash with few if any people defending her.

Mike Berk confirms he's back with Ximena at the Tell All

To the best of our knowledge, Mike has not been fired, edited out, disinvited, or even issued a public apology.

(By the way, he also used transphobic slurs in these old posts, mocked the murder of Trayvon Martin, and made jokes about the AAPI community)

Yes, his scandal came to light later in the season … but he also hasn’t received backlash like Alina has.

Mike Berk on IG Live

To put it bluntly, sometimes very real scandals are weaponized by people who are acting in bad faith.

Many people were shocked and hurt at Alina’s scandal, because they had liked her on screen and were baffled by her social media history.

Some people did not like Alina from the show — because she’s a woman, because she has a sex life, even because she is disabled.

Alina Kasha is very honest with Caleb Greenwood about last night

To the people who already disliked Alina, her scandal wasn’t upsetting — it was exactly what they wanted to use to lash out at her.

Meanwhile, Mike — thanks to a combination of editing, the audience’s tendency to like men more, and some sympathetic moments — is less hated.

Only in his final episodes on screen did Mike begin to show an ugly side of himself to the cameras, but that’s kind of too late to rile up most viewers.

Mike Berk vs Ximena preview 02 of 06

This is not the first time that TLC has shown a clear double standard based, not upon actions, but upon popularity.

Maybe this isn’t 90 Day Fiance‘s fault — maybe it’s the fault of lawmakers for not regulating the reality TV industry in a way that protects stars and producers and mandates transparency.

Remember, this is the show that quietly disinvited now-incarcerated domestic abuser Geoffrey Paschel from the Tell All without warning viewers of who he really is.

Geoffrey Paschel is sentenced to 18 years in prison

Some fans had to learn months or years later, on social media, about Geoffrey’s harrowing personal and criminal history.

Imagine if Geoffrey weren’t in prison where he belongs, and fans met up with him and were endangered because they saw him on TV and thought that he was “safe.”

90 Day Fiance is an enormously successful franchise, but the responsible choice would be to employ more fairness and a little transparency when it comes to these choices.

Which Couples Are Still Together from 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days (Season 5)?

Season 5 is winding to a close and we’ve all seen the 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Tell All Part 1.

Of all of the couples this season, only one could be together on the Tell All stage.

Some of them are playing details of their lives close to the vest — especially those who will be on future seasons.

But how many of them are really still together?

First up, let’s start with the easiest couple to address.

Memphis and Hamza stumbled a little early on in their relationship, as both needed to be more honest with the other.

They also have one of the biggest language gaps ever featured in this franchise, leading Memphis to use simplified language … and earning a “Cookie Monster” nickname.

Memphis and Hamza made it clear that there was more than “sexy time” between them, however.

After a lot of ups and downs and communication struggles, the two married in Tunisia.

Memphis arrived as Hamza’s girlfriend. She flew back to Michigan a married, pregnant woman.

Hamza joins Memphis on the Tell All stage

Memphis showed up at the Tell All witha  total glow-up, knockout look … and still together with Hamza.

She stood out among the other couples, as she and Hamza were the only ones who could physically sit together.

Everyone else, whether still “together” or apart, had one partner on the stage, one partner communicating through a screen.

Up next are Kimberly and Usman.

Usman has appeared on the show before, and he’s back again with yet another older American woman.

Kimberly did not want to be seen as a “superfan.” What she did want was yammy-yammy from Usman.

Kimberly Menzies boops the nose of Usman Umar

Despite initially treating her like a groupee — and not the kind that you sleep with — Kimberly got what she wanted.

He spent the night, they boned, and though Usman wouldn’t say “I love you” or kiss her in public, Kimberly was mostly happy.

But the season ended with her looking at a future of seeing him a few times a year, at most.

Kimberly Menzies breaks down in tears on the Tell All

At the Tell All, Kimberly came prepared to defend her romance with Usman.

However, she was crushed when she — and her castmates — saw a clip of Usman calling and flirting with Zara.

Part 1 of the Tell All ended with Kimberly in tears … but no confirmation of a breakup has surfaced.

Caleb and Alina were a complicated couple, and not just because of their story.

The two met up in Turkey, as their friends-to-lovers story led to them meeting in person for the first time.

Though Alina’s disability gave Caleb pause at first, the two spent plenty of time in bed together.

Caleb Greenwood and Alina Kasha in bed (hesitation, anxiety)

Then, of course, Alina was fired, with the couple edited out of the rest of the season and disinvited from the Tell All.

Alina issued a public apology following her racism scandal.

Though many viewers noted that some of her critics were using a real wrongdoing in bad faith because they simply disliked her, it didn’t change her past misdeeds.

Alina Kasha IG apology for racist posts

Though Alina and Caleb appear to have parted on good terms, it does not look like they are still together.

On what we saw, it looked like Caleb wasn’t prepared for a long-term romance with Alina in light of her disability.

Perhaps the ending that we saw months ago was misleading, but they are not at the Tell All to correct us.

Mike and Ximena started off as a very sweet couple.

Mike hasn’t been in a “real” realtionship since he was 14, while Ximena is a young mother of two.

The two met through Ximena’s cam work, where Mike offered to financially support her so that she could quit that job.

Mike Berk vs Ximena preview 02 of 06

Despite some initial tender moments, the two turned out to be a toxic nightmare.

Ximena seemed to grow bored of Mike, picking both fair and unfair flaws … yet not quite going so far as to break up with him.

When Mike felt brokenhearted, he showed his ugly side, insulting Ximena and her family, and at one point refusing to leave her home.

Mike Berk vs Ximena preview 06 of 06

Mike began to give the impression that he felt that supporting Ximena as a girlfriend meant that he owned her.

Hurt people say hurtful things, but that is not a side of Mike that many viewers will soon forget.

Add that to Mike’s racism scandal — in many ways worse than Alina’s, despite less backlash — and it was hard to feel sorry for him.

Mike Berk confirms he's back with Ximena at the Tell All

This toxic couple ended their engagement before the season ended, but a cliffhanger on the finale showed them threatening to reconcile.

On the Tell All Part 1, they confirmed that they’re back together, and there have been reports for months that Mike and Ximena filmed another season.

However, the two strongly hinted at another ugly breakup in February, and Ximena seems to already be with a new man.

Speaking of creepy men, up next, we have Ben and Mahogany.

Ben is in his fifties and believed that he was speaking to a 24-year-old, not to a 22-year-old.

Mahogany had tried to discourage Ben from coming, but he ignored her wishes and flew down anyway. This was the beginning of a pattern for him.

Ben Rathbun tries to get into the car with Mahogany Roca anyway

At first, Mahogany seemed like a total catfish, and viewers still aren’t sure what her whole deal is.

Ben dialed up his creepiness factor to new heights, repeatedly crossing her boundaries and using textbook manipulative tactics.

As the season ended, they were very much over, though at the Tell All, Ben confirmed that they had spoken the night before.

Ben Rathbun and Mahogany Roca on Reddit (February 2022)

Ben and Mahogany were spotted in a mall in Lima, Peru several weeks ago, even photographed by a fan of the show.

Whether or not they were filming again, they were unwisely spending time in each other’s company months and months after Season 5 filming had wrapped.

We can’t explain his judgment or hers. Some people cannot stop making the same mistake.

Ella and Johnny were perhaps this season’s least eventful couple, as they did not get a chance to meet.

(It’s a real shame, and personally I hope that they can return for another season and meet up — they both deserve happiness)

Between the COVID-19 pandemic itself and the protections put into place, Johnny kept delaying meeting Ella, and each delay hurt more than the last.

Johnny to Ella Johnson - like a postponement to February

Sometimes, even the most valid excuses in the world stop being enough after they’re used too many times.

Ella ended up sleeping with a friend, which she confessed to Johnny (for some reason, Kimberly was particularly furious with her over this).

It appears that they are still together (unless they say otherwise during Part 2), but have yet to actually meet.

Gino and Jasmine were one of the most bizarre and at times horrifying couples this season.

There is simply no excuse for how much screaming and betrayal viewers were forced to endure.

They both owe each other so much more than what they offered.

Gino Palazzolo and Jasmine Pineda hug, are engaged

Gino leaked Jasmine’s nudes to his ex, simultaneously breaking Jasmine’s trust while proving that he’s hung up on his ex.

Jasmine would cry and scream and yell with little or no provocation — having meltdowns over the color of the walls of Gino’s house, which she has never visited.

The two ended up getting engaged despite a bajillion fights and other red flags, though Gino “forgot” to bring up a prenup.

Gino Palazzolo in K-1 process with Jasmine, isn't flirting with restaurant employees

At the Tell All, Gino declared that he had “decided” that he did not need a prenup.

Though Jasmine complained about him choosing to masturbate instead of give her his “meat,” which she craved, they are clearly still together.

Gino confirmed that they are in the K-1 visa process and that he hopes to bring her home to MIchigan soon.

Caleb Greenwood Awkwardly Addresses Tell All Absence: I Wish My Castmates the Best!

For the final episodes of Season 5 and for the 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Tell All special, one couple was conspicuously absent.

Caleb Greenwood and Alina Kasha received a limited run this season before being edited out following Alina’s scandal.

Some viewers didn’t quite get the memo, and had expected to see them appear on the Tell All.

On Instagram, Caleb is addressing their conspicuous absence.

“As everyone has noticed and was announced on the episode, I’m not at the Tell All,” Caleb wrote.

“I wish my fellow 90 Day cast mates the best,” he expressed.

Caleb then encouraged his followers: “Stay tuned next week for part 2 as all the couple’s relationship statuses unfold.”

Caleb Greenwood IG on Tell All absence

In a previous Instagram post, Caleb also touched upon the subject of his and Alina’s removal from the show.

“We only took a few photos in Turkey as a group and this is one of my favorites,” he wrote beside a photo of the couple with Alina’s friend, Elijah.

“A lot of people send me messages,” Caleb acknowledged, “that they are surprised that our story wrapped the way it did and wasn’t longer.”

Caleb acknowledged: “But some things are beyond my control.”

“Despite the ups and downs,” he reflected, “the trip really was a good experience that carries fond memories.”

Caleb concluded: “And yes, some of them even include Fabulous Elija despite all his dramatic antics.”

Elijah and Caleb Greenwood end things on a good place

Caleb’s bromance with Elijah was really interesting — they are two men who really care about Alina but have very little else in common.

Elijah was something of a fan favorite despite his limited run on the show.

It might have been interesting to see more of how Caleb and Alina got along after Elijah went home, but we didn’t see much.

Elijah departs - don't be a dick, Caleb

Caleb and Alina had a lot of interesting potential of their own.

Alina is a ltitle person, navigating life with a very visible physical disability.

Even if Caleb weren’t a very active and fit guy, that could pose unique relationship challenges.

Alina Kasha has dinner with Caleb Greenwood and her friend Maria

Unfortunately, we did not get to see their full story play out.

While Alina and Caleb’s on-screen story was interesting and engaging and even relatable, her social media history caught up to her.

Multiple posts, made across different years, using the N-word, were impossible to ignore or excuse.

Alina Kasha IG n-word caption beard post 2015

Alina did post an apology, but her initial denials and excuses did not work in her favor.

Fans struggled to understand how someone who had studied in the United States, even for a matter of months, could be confused about such a slur.

(Some adult Americans also claim “confusion” over the world’s worst slur, but that’s neither here nor there)

Alina Kasha IG apology for racist posts

So no, Alina and Caleb were not on the Tell All.

Other stars have been disinvited in the past, following scandals, arrests, and worse.

With Alina and Caleb, the show took the unprecedented step of editing out their story from the rest of the season.

BF90 S5 cast on the Tell All stage

It’s clear that Alina is remorseful and in many ways a good person, but that doesn’t mean that an apology is enough following racist slurs.

(And frankly, as a white person, it wouldn’t be my place to say if it were)

But one thing isn’t adding up … because look who did make it to the Tell All.

Mike Berk confirms he's back with Ximena at the Tell All

Mike Berk and Ximena Cuellar were on the Tell All, even after Mike — an American with no “I’m Russian” excuse — had his own scandal.

We know that a lot of older social media comes from a time when “shock” humor was popular, but it’s hard to see that applying here.

If Mike’s history of racist and bigoted posts were supposed to be jokes … what exactly is the punchline?

Mike Berk IG "bad joke" racist slur

That’s not a joke, that’s just repeating white supremacist talking points and using a racial slur in the process.

So why is Mike still on the show — and likely returning for another season — while Alina (and by extension, Caleb and Elijah) is just a memory?

Well, that’s because Alina wasn’t actually fired for racism.

Alina was fired because of massive backlash from fans that (understandably) was not countered by any defenders.

Calls to fire verbal abusers like Angela Deem or accused predators like Big Ed are often countered by fans — we can’t explain it, but some people actually like them.

The calls to fire Alina were vocal, aggressive, and she lacked the polarizing factor of having outspoken fans speak up for her.

Mike Berk cusses out Ximena, her family

We’re not saying that Alina should still be on the show or that people should have spoken up to defend her, but … what is Mike still doing there?

The truth is that, though his scandal is almost certainly worse in terms of what he did, the outcry has been far less.

Maybe it’s because it’s later in the season. Or maybe some of the (otherwise justified) outcry against Alina was rooted in people who just didn’t like her.

Mike Berk Wants Ximena Back on 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Finale (Recap)

Season 5, Episode 16 of 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days was also the season finale … except of course for the Tell All.

For several couples, this was a tearful and tender episode as they said goodbye.

There were some exceptions.

After initially refusing to leave Ximena’s home, Mike finally left to spend the night in a hotel, but his complicated feelings did not leave him when he left Colombia.

Ben chased Mahogany after she walked away, driving her first into and then out of a car as he demanded that she listen to what he had to say.

Gino and Jasmine cried and said goodbye … before Gino had a chance to bring up a prenup.

With Kimberly gone, Usman called up Zara — yes, the ex with the song about her — while showing some skin.

A pregnant Memphis said a tearful goodbye to Hamza and his family, with Hamza realizing that his child might be born before the K-1 visa is granted.

1. Mike Berk and Ximena Cuellar

Mike berk grudgingly packs his things
Despite Mike’s alarming refusal to leave her home, it looks like he either talked himself into going to a hotel or production reminded him that they were, you know, filming all of this and “guy who refuses to leave his ex-fiancee’s house” is not a great look.

2. Ximena went to family

Ximena cuellar the crazies
She laments how she always seems to attract “the crazies.” It’s clear that this breakup is taking its emotional toll on her, too. She knows that Mike really cares about her, but she’s no longer in love with him — plus, he just threw a lot of insults in her face.

3. Mike apologizes … sort of

Mike berk im very sorry
Mike mostly seems to be apologizing to Ximena’s mom and sister, but perhaps also to her. He is saying goodbye, but he begins to cry.

4. This is hard for everyone

Ximena mom derly i saw him like another member of the family
Derly, Ximena’s mom, explains to the camera that Mike has felt like family — both during his visits and even from afar. Through his support of Ximena, which started right around when the pandemic put a lot of people out of work, Mike has put food on the table for many of them. She’s grateful, and it’s hard to lose a man she has thought of as a son.

5. They hug goodbye

Ximena mom derly hugs mike berk goodbye
Mike and Ximena even hug — seemingly at his insistence — before he heads off to the hotel.

6. The next day, Mike wants to come over to say goodbye

Ximena cuellar i dont want you to come
Given the complicated feelings at play and Mike’s behavior the night before, Ximena tells him that she doesn’t want him to come over in person.

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Usman Umar Calls Zara, Admits He Still Loves Her After Kimberly Leaves

Last weekend, Kimberly Menzies left without a goodbye kiss from Usman Umar, catching her flight back to the United States.

She kissed his cheek and told him that she loved him multiple times. Usman did nothing of the sort, despite PDA during the ride over.

With Kimberly gone, however, Usman reached out to his ex, Zara, to whom his song and music video were dedicated.

Despite his struggles to say the same about Kimberly, he has no problem dropping the L-word about Zara.

At the beginning of this sneak peek for Season 5, Episode 16 of 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days, Usman is searching for clarity.

“At this point, I think I love her,” he admits of the recently-promoted-to-girlfriend-status Kimberly.

“But,” Usman characterizes, “I think sometimes Kimberly wants things in her own way.”

“And if I want for us to have peace, I have to give in to her,” Usman explains in the clip.

“So,” he reasons, “I still have concern about this relationship.”

Feeling like you have to walk on eggshells and appease your partner is not a healthy dynamic, it’s true.

So Usman has decided to call up his most recent American ex, a woman named Zara.

As viewers may recall, Zara couldn’t cope with Usman’s thirsty fans on social media, so they broke up before ever meeting in person.

“Even though I didn’t meet Zara in person, I love that lady so much,” Usman tells the camera.

“But she couldn’t handle my career,” Usman recalls of his erstwhile romance with Zara.

“And,” he needlessly reminds viewers, “I love my career first than anything.”

Usman summarizes: “So, this is the reason why she break up with me about four months ago.”

That’s a reminder that most of the time that he spent talking to Kimberly was also time spent in this relationship with Zara.

Usman didn’t see it as a romance with Kimberly, allegedly, but Kimberly sure did.

That is why she was so furious with him — everyone understands that he was talking to at least two women at that time. Kimberly felt like an understudy.

When Usman calls up Zara, he very notably does not mention Kimberly.

“I came here to shoot that song I dedicated to you before you break up with me,” he says during the video call.

He then claims: “But I was like ‘Hey, wait a minute. I think I need to call Zara just to talk to her.'”

Real talk: like when Georgi chatted with Jesse on Darcey & Stacey, this feels like a suggestion made by production, but whatever.

Zara seems awkward for a while, before admitting to Usman that her mother knows “what really happened.”

She continues mysteriously: “She knows. She knows that I was hurt by it.”

Presumably, if the full episode doesn’t tell us all of that, the “what really happened” of it all will come up at the Tell All.

Usman stirs the pot, asking Zara if she misses “anything about me.”

Did we mention that he’s not wearing an undershirt for this whole conversation? Yes, more men should dress like that, but there’s a time and a place, my guy.

“I know Kimberly would not be happy with me right now calling Zara,” Usman admits to the camera.

“But I don’t think I’m doing anything wrong,” he insists.

Usman claims that he only called Zara “because I need to be sure about my future with Kimberly.” Sure.

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Memphis Sandoval Blasts 90 Day Fiance Trolls: Stop Bullying My Castmates!

Longtime reality stars are no strangers to scrutiny, misinformation, and social media trolls.

However, new 90 Day Fiance cast members like Memphis Sandoval are sometimes caught unprepared for the vitriol aimed their way.

Memphis has faced paternity questions, been ridiculed for her manner of speech, and even felt that “fans” were bullying her children.

On social media, she is hitting back hard at trolls and asking fans to be kinder — not just to her, but to her castmates.

Memphis Sandoval needed some space to figure things out

Memphis Smith, also known as Memphis Sandoval and most recently as Memphis Chardell-Arden Mokni, has been speaking out since the season premiere.

A newcomer to the franchise on Season 5, she spoke out early this year.

She implored viewers to remember that editing meant that much of what they saw was taken out of context.

Memphis has repeatedly asked haters to go complain elsewhere, like the comments under various blogger pages.

Trolls filling her Instagram with insults and accusations, she warned, would be blocked.

Memphis admitted that she wasn’t sure if she would do the show again in light of what she has experienced … at one point referring to it as “the devil’s work.”

Memphis Sandoval contacts a family law attorney

That was then.

Now, Memphis is emphasizing how hard of a time her castmates are having, too.

“It is sad to see so many people going to the extreme to hurt [the] cast, belittle them.”

Memphis Sandoval is honestly getting fed up

She lamented that people would “try to discredit them and destroy their lives.”

Memphis expressed a desire for people to be wiser and to “not to participate in these shows.”

Her frustration, she explained, stemmed from people not enjoying the show for what it is.

Memphis Smith IG Story anger at viewers

“Then what will these lowlife people do with their time?” Memphis asked.

She suggested: “Maybe do something more productive like plant a tree.”

This could be a response to a couple of things.

Memphis Smith baby photo (mystery)

First of all, this could stem from Memphis’ recent drama related to a photo of her young son.

Her son, who is now 7 years old, was very cute as a baby.

But when Memphis posted a throwback of him without a clear explanation and then insisted that he was not Hamza’s, rumors began flying around.

Memphis Smith IG hints the baby isn't Hamza's?

While Memphis could have avoided this by clearly labeling her photos, she is not an experienced public figure.

A few months ago, no one had ever heard of her, and her posts would receive mostly normal replies.

Now, she’s living in a different world where every post will be analyzed by countless chattering voices, many of whom have bad intentions.

Memphis is not the only cast member under fire.

Ben Rathbun says that he was fired because of misinformation following his arrests, which he says were also not his fault.

One would hope that more reality stars would give information that they are able to, as many good faith fans are simply discussing the best information available.

Memphis Smith IG why do trolls assume the worst

Memphis has clearly had enough.

She shared that she plans to discontinue use of her Instagram page after the Tell All special airs.

One can hardly blame her from being tired of the backlash.

Hamza and Memphis Sandoval are married

That said … Memphis was spotted a few months ago, apparently filming again.

She was seen in Michigan. Hamza was reportedly seen with her.

Honestly, it would be very interesting to see how Memphis and Hamza get along in a new environment … with that same language barrier.

Ben Rathbun Fired Following Arrest: I Didn’t Drink and Drive! I Was Drugged!

Last week, 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days star Ben Rathbun was sentenced following his arrest.

This was a complicated case, stemming from 2020 charges of driving under the influence and a follow-up failure to appear this February.

Now, Ben is finally speaking out on the matter — revealing that he has been fired from his job.

According to Ben, he was a victim in both arrests, a statement that reminds some fans of how he described his past relationships to Mahogany.

Ben Rathbun spoke to In Touch Weekly following his dismissal from his job at the Michigan Lupus Foundation.

He hopes that this firing “will serve to humble me and allow greater growth in me as a person.”

Ben previously worked as an executive director of the foundation, but says that he does not resent this move.

Ben Rathbun didn't get a text back, is skipping brunch

Ben shared that he does not “blame my foundation for letting me go.”

This statement comes after his former employer announced his dismissal on Facebook.

“Effective immediately, Ben Rathbun is no longer an employee,” the Michigan Lupus Foundation declared.

angry Mahogany Roca walks away from Ben Rathbun

“Anything that would distract us from accomplishing the mission of our charity should be dealt with appropriately,” Ben admitted.

“I had become a major distraction,” he acknowledged.

“And I know this process, while painful, is the best course of action,” Ben affirmed.

Ben Rathbun tries to defend everything

Ben expressed his aspiration that this change “will eventually lead me to another place of service.”

He hopes that this new path will bring him to a place “that can use my talents to help people.”

But Ben also wants to address the arrests — both the initial one in 2020, and the more recent one from this year.

Ben Rathbun learns that Mahogany's parents do not live there

Ben’s arrest a few weeks ago was due to a bench warrant after he failed to appear at a probation hearing.

That probation, and thus the arrest, stemmed from his 2020 OUI (operating under the influence) arrest.

According to him, misinformation about his arrest led to confusion and undue blame.

Ben Rathbun waits alone in the dark on a pier

“When the public, including the board members of my charity, first heard of my arrest,” Ben recalled.

He added: [it was] falsely reported that I had been picked up late at night for drunk driving.”

Ben continued: “While the truth was far less dramatic, the damage had been done.”

Ben Rathbun continues to wait

“But still, I had committed a crime and put myself and others in danger,” Ben explained.

He then confessed: “And … I had hid it from them and even my family.”

It sounds like, had Ben been more transparent with his loved ones and perhaps with fans, some of this scandal could have been avoided.

Ben Rathbun finds out that he's just a friend

“In September of 2020, I went to help a homeless couple living at a Red Roof Inn,” Ben recalled.

“And when they offered me a little plastic cup of wine,” he shared, “I stupidly accepted.”

“When I left, I felt so tired I stopped at a hotel for the night,” Ben described, “and completely lost the next 24 hours.”

Ben Rathbun looks forward to "mandatory alone time," believes it's god's plan

“Apparently, they had spiked the drink,” Ben accused.

“The next day, I attempted to drive home and hit the curb disabling my car,” he revealed.

“The police did a breathalyzer and found no alcohol,” Ben shared, “but later they did a blood draw at the station and found flubromazolam in my system.”

Ben Rathbun prepares for flight, has booked separate hotel rooms

As you can guess from the name, flubromazolam is related to more commonly proscribed benzodiazepines.

It is a more recent and potentially more potent variation of that family of medicines.

While benzodiazepines can positively transform people’s lives, we should remember that Rohypnol — a common drug used by sexual predators — is also in that group.

Ben Rathbun doesn't feel like he has to answer for the past

“I received 18 months probation, community service, counseling, fines, educational courses, and random testing for weeks and weeks,” Ben recalled.

“I met all the requirements and never had a positive test,” he added.

“However, when the court allowed me to move to another state, they mailed a summons to the wrong address,” Ben explained.

Mahogany Roca leaves Ben Rathbun alone at the table

“This was my fault,” Ben admitted, “because I needed to make sure I was getting all notices.”

“But by the time I found out, it was too late, and I missed my appointment,” he acknowledged.

“So a warrant was issued for my arrest,” Ben said. “I immediately drove 14 hours and turned myself in to the court and spent a night in jail.”

Ben Rathbun is pretty weirded out by everything

It sounds like, according to Ben, he did not voluntarily drive under the influence of anything.

From Ben’s description, someone poisoned him, leading to his arrest and a great deal of personal difficulties.

Then, when the summons was mailed to the wrong address, Ben lived everyone’s nightmare — facing a bench warrant without knowing it.

Mahogany Roca - so Benjamin is perfect and does nothing wrong?

Some have suggested that Ben is blaming everyone but himself, as he seemed to do when describing his romantic history to Mahogany Roca.

However, Ben did acknowledge that he should have made sure that the court had his new address.

This sounds like an extremely unfair situation and, whatever we may think of what we’ve seen of him on the show, we’re sorry that this happened to Ben.

Ximena Cuellar Flaunts New Man, Diamond Ring After Second Split from Mike Berk

Even though Mike Berk is being a real jerk and even refused to leave Ximena’s home, fans haven’t forgotten what she has done.

She said a lot of insulting things to Mike and seemed to use sex to string him along instead of making a clean break.

After all of that, their relationship only ended for good very recently.

Ximena recently celebrated her birthday, turning 25 and celebrating with her new man … and a new engagement ring.

In early March, Ximena celebrated her birthday.

She turned 25 — having turned 24 only a short time before she and Mike began to film together, it seems.

However, a recently uncovered slideshow (read: another cringy music video) shows that she did not celebrate alone.

Ximena Cuellar kisses new man

Not much is known about Ximena’s new man.

He is reportedly Canadian. He clearly has multiple tattoos.

He is also, well, taller than Mike — not an insult to Mike, just a fact.

Ximena Cuellar and new man

Given the decor and outfits, it’s clear that Ximena’s birthday pic with him was part of the same shoot as the photo that she shared publicly.

Because she is under an NDA, Ximena could not just post the full set of pics for all to see.

However, because Ximena is clearly someone who falls head over heels and cannot help but post extremely corny love videos, we’re all seeing this anyway.

Ximena Cuellar poses with new man

Of particular interest to viewers is the ring that Ximena is not trying to hide in multiple pics.

The look of the ring and the significance that it is given in pictures sure makes it seem like an engagement ring.

The ring shows up even in photos that do not feature her new man, like those on her public Instagram account.

Ximena Cuellar engagement ring with new man

One thing that remains totally up in the air is when these two started seeing each other.

Officially, we first saw him in another cheesy slideshow video that Ximena posted and quickly deleted … back in February.

Maybe she deleted it to abide by her NDA … or maybe she deleted it because she hadn’t meant to publicly post it and reveal herself as a cheater.

Ximena Cuellar birthday kiss with new man

This is just a theory, of course, and will require some explaining.

But some people believe that Mike and Ximena were still together until she slipped up and posted about her new man.

If she was two-timing Mike with him, that would be a grim way for Mike to find out.

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If you’re wondering “wait, how could she still be with Mike in February if we just watched them break up?” … that’s a fair question.

On average, this show (like many similar reality series) airs about 8 months later, with some couples airing closer to 12 months after filming, others less.

It’s probably safe to say that the ugly, protracted breakup that we’ve seen Mike and Ximena have took place in the spring of 2021.

Ximena Cuellar kisses Mike Berk

But Ximena, being extremely young, is very active on TikTok, where she posted all sorts of things last year.

When she’s not possibly revealing her new man (or side piece) with it, she’s posting bits and pieces of her life.

That included uncomfortably sappy looks at what appears to have been a long-distance proposal from Mike.

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The best guess here is that Mike an Ximena renewed their engagement over long distance after talking things out.

(This was even hinted at in the previews for next week’s episode)

If so, they got back together and continued to be in a relationship for months before inevitably splitting again.

Ximena Cuellar TikTok Mike Berk proposal 02 of 03

Ximena has been very hurtful and may have extended her engagement with Mike in order to get more money from him — so fans believe.

Mike refused to leave her home when asked to, pulled some very toxic moves (bringing up her cam work being one of them) and was also outed as a racist.

Neither of them seem to have been good partners or even particularly good people. What a shame.

Mike Berk cusses out Ximena, her family

Perhaps we will learn more about these two at the Tell All.

However, if rumors that they were filming again turn out to be true, we may have to wait a whole season to find out the rest of the story.

We hope that these two stay apart and, ideally, work on themselves.

Memphis Sandoval Had a Baby: Is Hamza Really the Father?

Memphis and Hamza had some exciting news on the latest episode of 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days.

It wasn’t a shock that they got married. In fact, even the pregnancy announcement only confirmed rumors.

However, Memphis had shared an adorable photo of her baby on social media not too long ago.

There was just one problem: Hamza said that it wasn’t his. Um … what?

Memphis Sandoval, also known as Memphis Smith and more recently as Memphis Chardell-Arden Mokni, traveled to Tunisia to be with Moknii Hamza.

She didn’t go all that way for “sexy time.” Well, not only for that.

Memphis went there to marry Hamza, and that’s what they did.

Hamza and Memphis Sandoval are married

After all that they went through to be together, it was expected that they would marry.

Besides, late last year, Memphis filed paperwork using her married name, which was sort of a spoiler.

What caught most viewers by surprise was Memphis’ post-nuptial announcement.

Hamza - pregnant?

Memphis showed Hamza and the cameras her positive pregnancy test.

She was, she shared, a few weeks pregnant.

(Real talk: there’s a decent chance that Memphis had already told Hamza and reenacted the test for the cameras)

Memphis Sandoval and Hamza embrace happily

Clearly, the two had been enjoying their newly wedded bliss.

Memphis and Hamza shared the happy news with his family.

His mother, Hayet, was especially thrilled to have a grandbaby on the way.

Hamza - Memphis is pregnant

Back in January, there were rumors circulating that Memphis had given birth.

Most of these stemmed from statements made on Twitter by her alleged ex.

A man claiming to have dated Memphis answered a few questions from interested fans.

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He didn’t come across like a bitter ex, and even emphasized that she’s a good person who makes mistakes.

(Is he one of those ill-advised relationship decisions to which he alludes?)

One claim in particular, that Memphis had given birth a few months earlier to Hamza’s baby, raised eyebrows.

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A random Twitter account isn’t confirmation, even if it appears authentic.

Memphis giving birth in the final months of 2021, around the same time as she began using her new married name, does add up.

As we know, the show airs with an 8-month delay after filming on average, but sometimes goes back much further.

Memphis Smith warns Hamza that if they don't marry this trip, it's over

Memphis recently tweeted a photo of an adorable baby wearing a red outfit and strapped into a carseat.

“God has truly blessed me with HEALTHY & BEAUTIFUL children,” she gushed.

Memphis continued: “This is the best gift anyone could ask for! Unconditional love of a child! Innocent & True!!”

Memphis Smith baby photo (mystery)

Two assumptions at that point made the most sense.

The first was that this was a throwback photo of one of Memphis’ two existing kids.

The second was that the rumors were true, and that this was a pic of her several-months-old baby with Hamza.

Hamza hugs Memphis Smith at the airport

When an Instagram blogger shared a screenshot of the photo, Hamza commented.

“Like my son not my son,” he wrote.

It’s unclear what he meant … but some interpreted it as a denial of paternity.

Memphis Sandoval needed some space to figure things out

That is super weird, and Hamza was in no position to say more.

In fact, he could potentially break his NDA by saying more.

Memphis then clarified that this was a “throwback picture of my 7-year-old son!” rather than “Hamza’s child.”

Memphis Smith IG - this is my son! not a part of Hamza

Weirdest of all came a series of noncommittal emoji replies that Memphis made on Instagram.

She seemed unwilling to comment, but did not outright deny someone’s characterization of her pregnancy timeline.

It’s possible that she was confirming that her third child isn’t actually Hamza’s, that she was already pregnant when she went to Tunisia.

Memphis explains to Hamza the importance of respecting his mom, knowing one another

Of course, it’s also possible that we are misreading those emojis.

Some even speculated that the baby could be Hamza’s, but that Memphis is denying that he is the father to try to avoid an international custody battle.

Frankly, we don’t have enough information yet, and it feels unlikely that we’ll even get clear answers at the Tell All.

Memphis Sandoval contacts a family law attorney

Part of the reason for that may be that these two were seen and appeared to be filming in Michigan, meaning that they’ll be on another season.

Sadly, it does not appear that they’ll have a happily ever after.

Memphis’ passive aggressive vagueposts and the history of her “likes” makes it sound like they had a very bitter breakup. Only time will tell how that went down.

Mike Berk Refuses to Leave After Ximena Dumps Him on 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days (Recap)

On 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Season 5, Episode 15, couples were made or broken.

Mike returned from his walkabout to find a Ximena who was ready for him to leave, but Mike refused — even when she offered to pay for the hotel.

Ben responded to Mahogany ghosting him by having her meet up with him, which is where things got even weirder.

Gino braces himself for an awkward prenup conversation with Jasmine, but she has her own bone to pick with him.

It’s time for Kimberly to head home, but Usman’s last-minute denial of PDA has her feeling insecure and rejected.

Memphis and Hamza are married, but that is not the end of their exciting news.

1. Mike Berk and Ximena Cuellar

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Mike ended the last episode by running off into the night. Maybe it helped him think. Maybe he wanted to stop the cameras from filming him cry. One way or the other, he came back to a bewildered Ximena … convinced that she had only used him for money.

2. She wants him to just go

Mike berk another bed at home
Though Ximena tells Mike that she is willing to pay for his hotel room, he refuses, saying that he wants to sleep in another room at her home.

3. They go back, with Ximena awkwardly explaining things to her sister

Mike berk im going to pack my clothes
Mike removes his things from her room. This is one of the most awkward parts of a breakup, and not something that we see as much on this show — all of the things involved, and how long leaving can actually take. Of course, Mike’s taking longer than most people might.

4. Ximena returns the rings

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She returns the wedding bands and the engagement ring (in many places, legally, the engagement ring would be hers anyway), but Mike asks her to consider holding onto the engagement ring until they work things out. He’s … still not getting the memo.

5. Mike also brings up Ximena’s past cam work

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Whatever we may think of Ximena, it was not Mike’s place to bring up that Ximena was a camgirl model before he began paying her to keep her from doing that work during their relationship.

6. Mike doesn’t like people knowing that this was how they met

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Ximena says that she didn’t ask Mike to send her money. He was being both generous and deeply selfish (or perhaps insecure) in sending it, but she had a job. And, as Ximena notes, Mike was super thirsty for her at the time … making it very hypocritical for him to throw this in her face.

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Jasmine Pineda Ambushes Gino Palazzolo: Your Ex Has Your Last Name? That’s MY Name Now!!

Despite their many conflicts, last weekend’s episode showed Jasmine gushing over Gino as the couple made their peace.

Gino proposed. The two were brimming with love.

But there’s more drama to come. Gino is paying for her apartment. Gino has to talk to her about a prenup.

Also … in this sneak peek for Sunday’s episode, Jasmine brings up a new problem, seemingly on purpose.

During Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days, we have all gotten an earful about one of Gino Palazzolo’s exes.

This is the ex who received nude photos of Jasmine Pineda … sent by Gino, whose betrayal nearly tore them apart.

But, obviously, that ex-girlfriend isn’t the only woman in Gino’s past.

Nearly a decade ago, he was married to another woman.

This woman, who was from Brazil, was already a contentious part of this relationship without ever appearing on the show.

Why? Well, because she and Gino picked out the paint in his house together, basically.

Yes, we all remember Jasmine’s gym meltdown over the color of Gino’s walls.

Because Gino has not totally redecorated his home in Michigan since his divorce, Jasmine feels that it is all tainted.

She has some clear insecurity issues that, when coupled with her emotional volatility, have explosive results.

In this sneak peek for Season 5, Episode 15, Jasmine and Gino are sitting down to dinner.

“I don’t want to make this dinner negative but I have to say this, okay?” Jasmine begins.

“All the issues that we have, it was because of your exes,” she quasi-accurately states.

“And now that we’re at this point in which we can talk about it,” Jasmine says.

She continues: “I discovered something that really pissed me off.”

At this point, Gino is visibly bracing himself for yet another raging tantrum, wondering what he has done this time.

You could cut the tension at this table with a knife.

“How long have you been divorced, babe?” Jasmine asks slowly in the preview.

“Umm…about eight years,” Gino nervously responds.

“Well, in social media, I just discovered that your ex-wife still has your last name,” Jasmine says.

To most people, that would just be, you know, how names work.

Many people do not change their names after a marriage ends without a strong incentive. It is expensive and requires a great deal of paperwork for most adults.

“To a certain extent it’s like you’re still — you’re family!” Jasmine remarks.

She adds: She didn’t give you kids, nothing. What’s the purpose?”

As if addressing Gino’s unseen ex, Jasmine goes on: “C’mon, give me a break. Take your father’s last name, not my man’s.”

“I don’t sit and look at her last name every day or anything like that, or think about what is her last name,” Gino replies.

“I don’t give a s–t,” Jasmine declares teritorially. “That last name is now mine.”

“Letting her keep it, f–k that,” she complains. It’s unclear how Gino is supposed to force his ex-wife to change her name.

“This last name stuff,” Gino says to the camera, “I don’t know why she’s making a big deal out of it.”

He goes on: “She shouldn’t be making a big deal — does that affect her in her day-to-day life? That my ex has my last name? C’mon now.”

Jasmine has been unhappy about both rational and irrational things. This is one of the irrational ones.

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Kimberly Denied a Goodbye Kiss from Usman Umar: Are You Ashamed of Me?!

Even after Usman Umar finally slipped Kimberly Menzies his yam, things aren’t perfect.

They had sex, they kissed, they are officially in a relationship, and they even reconciled after a big fight.

But they can’t even say goodbye at the airport without it turning into a “thing.”

This time, the problem was that Usman refused to kiss Kimberly goodbye in public. Is he ashamed of her? What gives?

As this sneak peek clip of Sunday’s episode begins, Kimberly Menzies is in tears.

No, Usman “Soljaboy” Umar hasn’t broken her heart — not yet, anyway.

Instead, she is crying because it’s time for her to leave to go home … and she’s not emotionally prepared to say goodbye.

In the car, Usman is all about the PDA.

After all, this is the same man who rested his head on Kimberly’s lap even before he was willing to kiss or sleep with her.

Once they get out of the car, however, there is a change in tone … especially after production stirs the pot.

What we don’t see most of the time on these shows is that producers ask question after question after question of the cast.

Most of the time, those questions are edited out.

Every now and then, there is an especially candid moment when viewers need to hear the prompt to fully appreciate what is happening.

In this clip, production asks if Usman and Kimberly are going to exchange a goodbye kiss.

It’s a very simple question, and even has non-dramatic applications, since they might need to set up the shot one way or another.

The answer, however, is not so simple — as Kimberly says “yes” and Usman says “no.”

After realizing that they were not going to agree, Usman explained why he was refusing to kiss his girlfriend goodbye.

“Kissing in the airport is just like a public announcement,” Usman reasoned.

Clearly, he had been listening to the concerns about public perception that his entourage members, like Badmus, had mentioned.

Usman arguably made it worse, suggesting that he has already done many things that he did not want to.

“So many things I do for you not because I want to,” he began.

Usman continued: “But because I want to make you happy.” 

An unhappy Kimberly asks if they can just go to the airport.

She sounds defeated and downright angry. Perhaps a little huffy, even.

Usman notices it, pointing out that she always displays anger when she doesn’t get her way.

Kimberly insists that this (obvious change in mood which we can all see with our own eyes) is not what’s happening.

Instead, she claims that this is about concern over not being late to her flight.

However, speaking (presumably some time later) to the confessional cameras, Kimberly acknowledged her displeasure.

“This has been the experience of a lifetime,” Kimberly described.

“And,” she noted happily, “I’m leaving as Usman’s girlfriend.”

Because of that, Kimberly noted, “I should be going home happy.”

“But the fact that he won’t kiss me in public, still,” Kimberly remarked, “still, after all this time.”

She admitted that “it hurts me a little bit.”

Kimberly expressed: “It’s like, are you ashamed of me? I mean, what is it?”

They said goodbye and embraced at the airport.

Though they did not have a true goodbye kiss, Kimberly gave him a quick kiss on the cheek, indistinguishable from a familial or friendly kiss.

Kimberly also told him that she loves him, saying it more than once … without him saying it back.

“We will see soon, right?” Usman suggested awkwardly.

He then gave her a high five, of all things.

To the camera, Kimberly admitted that she is uncertain about their future because Usman “make me feel insecure.”

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Ben Rathbun Sentenced to Community Service, Extended Probation Following Arrest

Last week, 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days star Ben Rathbun was arrested.

Though this franchise is no stranger to arrests, this is much more unusual while a season is actively airing.

Less than one week later, Ben was sentenced.

Even though Ben recently reunited with Mahogany, this could put a damper on his future with the show.

Starcasm got a look at Michigan court records.

He was ordered to spend 2 days in jail, though the court credited him with time served for his time behind bars following his arrest.

Ben was also instructed to complete 15 days of community service, and his probation was extended until 2023.

Ben Rathbun calls his friend, Jason

All things considered, that is a generous sentence, sparing Ben from any further time behind bars.

We know that this is a complicated situation, and some fans expressed confusion over what exactly had gotten him arrested.

With that in mind, we will lay out what happened as clearly as possible, and in an orderly fashion.

Ben Rathbun doesn't feel like he has to answer for the past

On September 16, 2020, some sort of incident took place that led to Ben facing an OWAI charge.

In November of 2020, Ben was charged with driving under the influence and with a suspended/revoked license.

Ben eventually entered a guilty plea to the lesser OWAI charge, getting the suspended license charge dismissed.

Ben Rathbun tries to defend everything

In January of 2021, following his plea, Ben was sentenced to 18 months of probation.

That would have extended until this summer, and then come to a tidy end.

However, this is not what happened.

Ben Rathbun used to be a pastor in a cult

Ben was due for a probation hearing on February 7, 2022.

By this point, it was months after he had filmed with Mahogany in Peru, and Season 5 was already underway.

He was reportedly accused of violating his probation, though the details of that are unclear.

Ben Rathbun finds out that he's just a friend

For reasons unknown (but theorized), Ben was a no-show to his own February 7 hearing.

As a result, the judge issued a bench warrant for his arrest.

That arrest was carried out on Tuesday, March 15.

Ben Rathbun prepares for flight, has booked separate hotel rooms

As succinctly as humanly possible, Ben broke the law driving in September of 2020 and allegedly violated the terms of his plea deal.

The result isn’t so bad.

Time served, some community service, and another six months added to his probation.

Ben Rathbun is pretty weirded out by everything

Court records show that Ben’s probation will end on January 25, 2023.

Hopefully, he will complete all of the court’s requests of him.

Driving violations can be dangerous and potentially deadly, but we would hate for someone’s life to be ruined unless they do something that is, well, evil.

Ben Rathbun continues to wait

But what, fans have spent the past week or so wondering, did Ben do to violate his probation?

We have heard no reports of additional charges, driving-related or otherwise.

However, the evidence of alleged probation violation may be staring us all in the face every Sunday.

Ben Rathbun learns that Mahogany's parents do not live there

It is not actually impossible to leave the country while on probation, but many such situations require that the person on probation receive prior approval to do so.

Perhaps Ben sought it and did not receive it. Perhaps it didn’t occur to him that he needed permission.

Whatever the reason, some wonder if Ben’s trip to Peru to see Mahogany last year is what landed him in trouble.

Ben Rathbun didn't get a text back, is skipping brunch

If so, that could be what had him summoned to a hearing — possibly after a court officer or even a snitch reported him.

In fact, a second trip to Peru, as he was seen with Mahogany in February of this year (many months after Season 5 filmed) could explain why he missed the February 7 hearing.

Hard to make it to a hearing for leaving the country if you have once again left the country.

Ben Rathbun and Mahogany Roca on Reddit (February 2022)

This is all speculation, and it’s possible that Ben did not get into trouble for visiting Peru. We just don’t know.

However, given his precarious legal situation, it seems unlikely that he will be given permission to leave the country for the rest of this year.

If Ben wasn’t filming a new season with Mahogany in February, he may miss his change for a comeback to the franchise … if such an offer were ever on the table.

Ben Rathbun Creeped Out Mahogany Roca With Barrage of Texts: What Did He Say?!

On 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Season 5, Ben Rathbun hasn’t just creeped out fans.

He also unnerved his would-be fiancee, causing Mahogany Roca to ditch him.

The night before she left (and then ghosted) Ben, he had sent her pages upon pages of weird texts.

What exactly did Ben say to Mahogany to make her feel so overwhelmed and repulsed?

Ben Rathbun looks forward to "mandatory alone time," believes it's god's plan

Some people get nervous when they send just a few messages with no reply. Ben sent dozens.

Viewers did not, overall, get a very good look at what Ben estimated to be “10 pages” of texts that he sent.

We saw enough, however. And even with the high-speed scroll, some viewers picked up on more that he said.

Ben Rathbun texts to Mahogany Roca - god has hardened your heart

“My love for you grows stronger every day,” read a segment translated from Spanish to English.

“But it seems that God has hardened your heart towards me,” he wrote, invoking Old Testament language in an odd way.

“You fear who I am and my intentions. But there is no room in love for that,” Ben declared. 

Ben Rathbun tries to defend everything

“Therefore this is not love. But know this — I do love you. I always will,” Ben insisted.

As laid out by a Reddit post, Ben had much more to say that the show did not focus upon (or translate).

At one point, Ben told Mahogany: “now I’m eating my food just trying not to cry.”

Ben Rathbun used to be a pastor in a cult

“I have completely forgiven her and treated her incredibly well,” Ben said of his ex-wife, Lisa.

“Yet for her part she hasn’t forgiven me yet and she still has some feelings about divorce,” he admitted.

“There was no love in marriage,” Ben claimed, “but she had it good so she didn’t want it to end.”

Ben Rathbun's ex-wife reacts to him saying Mahogany is god's plan for him

Ben insisted that he took care of his financial responsibilities “including the paying more than was necessary for child support.”

He claimed that he gave his ex the house and “everything in the house” following their divorce.

And, after 24 years of marriage, Ben allegedly paid her half of his salary — so he told Mahogany — for a few years.

Ben Rathbun breaks the news to his kids and his ex-wife

“This is my truth before God,” Ben wrote to Mahogany.

“You can choose not to believe me, or to believe me, or to judge and wait,” he generously offered.

“I respect everything you do,” Ben declared, “because you’re an incredibly smart woman with pious wisdom.”

Ben Rathbun doesn't feel like he has to answer for the past

“You don’t need me and you could have anyone,” Ben praised.

“And,” he insisted, “I don’t need you for happiness because God alone gives that.”

As he has proclaimed many times on the show, Ben told her that he felt called to “chase” her because God had put her in his “heart.”

Ben Rathbun finds out that he's just a friend

“I like every little thing about you,” Ben told Mahogany.

“So if God is doing this,” he assured her, “nothing will separate us.”

That is odd and arguably pretty creepy. We can understand why Mahogany didn’t reply.

Mahogany Roca - we share that together

Mahogany is herself a devout Christian, so perhaps she has more overlap with Ben in terms of beliefs and the use of religious language than many viewers.

At the same time … she’s a hardcore Christian and even she was freaked out by his texts.

Ultimately, this led to her not replying, later walking away from him, and finally ghosting him — leaving him to find his own way back from the hotel.