Emily Bieberly SLAMMED After Kobe Confrontation: Is She a 90 Day Fiance Villain?

From the start of Season 9, Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise’s storyline has been a hot topic among 90 Day Fiance fans.

Viewers aren’t one-sided, at times clashing on social media as if they’re watching different shows — or coming from different planets.

Events in the latest episode left fans wondering if Emily and Kobe are even still together after a nasty confrontation.

Is Emily the bad guy that critics say that she is? It’s complicated.

Emily Bieberly is aware of how much she's changed

Before we delve into what’s been going on with Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise, here’s what people are saying.

Emily’s antics on Episode 8 were certainly her worst — except perhaps in the eyes of mom-shamers who are terrified of boobs.

The social media backlash was intense, so much so that there was comparatively little said about Kobe’s behavior in the same episode.

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“Trying to see where Emily was helping Kobe during that scene,” one Twitter user commented.

As we will recap shortly, Emily thought that she was “helping” Kobe by attempting to micromanage him during a chore.

She was not. Had they communicated as a healthy couple should, she would have known this.

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“The only reason why Emily and Kobe are fighting, is because Emily is starting every disagreement,” claimed another.

Actually, that’s not quite the truth, though she certainly caused a major disagreement in the stables on Episode 8.

Previously, Kobe started an argument, both wanting Emily to breastfeed in private for some reason and wanting her to stop altogether.

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“No Emily, YOU were being rude. YOU ARE ALWAYS RUDE DEMANDING & CONTROLLING!” another exclaimed on Twitter.

“You were not talking talking to him, you were nagging, berating, & disrespectful to kobe,” the person continued.

“You have no thought about how your actions affect him. Its you,” the tweeter wrote. “You are the issue.” That’s at least partially true.

Kobe Blaise - I have to suck her breasts

Turning back the clock a little, Emily — though instantly on many viewers’ hit lists — started off in a good place this season.

Kobe was the one who picked a fight with her over breastfeeding, in part admitting that he wanted her breasts to herself instead of having to “share” with his son.

He also tried to discourage her from nursing her son or pumping milk in her own home, asking that she go hide in the basement.

Emily Bieberly - where am I supposed to go? downstairs?

There are, unfortunately, other people who think like this in the world, though culturally this mom-shaming weirdness is going out of style in the US.

This is why so many celebrities share breastfeeding photos on social media, pushing to normalize something that is very normal.

If someone has sexualized breasts to the point where they cannot conceive of a child being fed in public, or even in the living room, then that’s on them.

Kobe Bliase chats while Emily Bieberly feeds Koban

Some viewers seemed to agree with Kobe that Koban was “too old” to be nursing, but that is one of those things that’s just factually incorrect.

There are of course instances of child-led weaning that take place at younger ages, but Koban is 17 months old.

Almost every health organization on the planet, including the government of Kobe’s native Cameroon, urges breastfeeding until age 2 if not longer.

Emily Bieberly walks Kobe Blaise through changing Koban's diaper

Fans have accused Emily of being “bossy” before, though some of these incidents were sort of necessary.

When someone is learning to change a diaper for the first time, instructions are often necessary to help them do it right.

I changed my first diaper when I was six or seven years old, but I’d want guidance on changing a specific brand on a specific child, for the child’s comfort.

Emily Bieberly guides Kobe Blaise through Koban's car seat

Emily also closely supervised Kobe as he put Koban into the car seat.

Slight errors in putting a baby or a toddler into a car seat can result in discomfort.

Other mistakes can be fatal. You can’t leave stuff like that up to chance for politeness’ sake.

Kobe Blaise to Emily Bieberly - ground nuts (peanuts)

When it comes to child’s safety, things like good intentions (or even culture) have to take a back seat.

So when Emily came in just in time to see Kobe about to give their 17-month-old whole peanuts, it was not a moment too soon.

Whole or parts of peanuts are not advised for children under age four, because they are a choking hazard.

info card - no whole peanuts or parts before age 4

Emily was strongly condemned over every one of those incidents, and more.

The harsh truth is that some of the condemnation was purely misogyny, part of it was production and editing baiting vocal misogynists among viewers.

90 Day Fiance knows its audience all too well, and extreme backlash against (mostly women) cast members has helped the show’s ratings and brand.

Kobe Blaise walks with Emily Bieberly and Lisa

On Episode 8, out of a desire to help out so vague that it feels like production just wanted them to do something interesting, Kobe went out to the stables.

Accompanied by Emily and Emily’s mother, Lisa, his goal was to help with a chore in the stables.

Emily was already eager to spend time with her fiance after this … unfortunately, too eager.

Emily Bieberly gets bossy about how to do things

In her excitement, Emily got downright pushy with Kobe.

She tried to micromanage how he did the chore, right down to advising him on how much horse manure to put on his shovel.

Some folks would love to be told exactly how to do something, but many of us would not. Kobe would not.

Kobe Blaise bristles after being given instructions

It is clear that, in Emily’s mind, she was “helping” her fiance to get the job done faster.

But she came across as bossy, and only grew bossier when Kobe did not immediately take her advice.

The two sort of spiraled, each growing more annoyed with the other without ever communicating why.

Kobe Blaise - can you just shut the f--k up?

Tempers flared, which is when Kobe said something that, for many (hopefully most) relationships, would be a deal-breaker.

“Can you just shut the f–k up?” Kobe asked Emily.

Emily had been rude, but this was an escalation. It’s not an acceptable way to speak to a friend, let alone your fiancee and the mother of your child.

Emily Bieberly has never seen this toxic side of him before

It was not lost on a visibly stunned Emily that Kobe had also said this in front of her mother.

Before going inside, she told the cameras that she had never seen this side of him.

Emily worried that this could happen again. Unfortunately, she did not seem to recognize her escalating rudeness before Kobe.

Kobe Blaise - I feel like maybe it's an American thing

Kobe very clearly did not, in turn, understand how far over the line he had crossed by telling his fiancee to STFU.

In the stables, he speculated — to Emily’s mom — that perhaps cultural gender roles were to blame, that this was an “American thing.”

Lisa gently countered that this was more of a “person” thing, noting that her own husband would never, under any circumstances, speak to her that way.

Emily Bieberly confronts Kobe Blaise, the two semi-apologize

Inside, Kobe and Emily clashed again, offering each other halfhearted apologies.

Emily simply said that she was sorry for “talking” to Kobe, which was not sincere and frankly showed that she had no idea how hostile she had been.

And Kobe still didn’t seem to fully grasp how hurtful his words had been.

Neither Emily nor Kobe have shown themselves to be real competition for this season’s biggest villain.

Bilal and Mohamed seem to be the strongest contenders for that so far.

But Emily is certainly among the most hated, which is pretty par for the course in terms of what the 90 Day Fiance audience’s most vocal members do and do not like.

Emily clearly has the potential to emerge as a season villain, but “she’s bossy while he’s doing chores” isn’t really enough for that.

If she keeps this up, or escalates, she could end up being a bad guy — albeit not the Lifetime movie plotline that Bilal is putting Shaeeda through.

But if we’re being honest, so far, Emily’s been in the right in most of her conflicts with Kobe. He seems like a decent guy, but that doesn’t mean that he’s right.

Are Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise Still Together?

This season, toxic aspects of Emily Bieberly and Kobe Blaise’s storyline have played upon the worst instincts of 90 Day Fiance viewers.

But it’s not only aboud editing and misogyny. This couple has real issues that production barely has to exaggerate.

This week’s episode saw Kobe snap, telling Emily to “shut the f–k up” in front of her mom after she got bossy.

Some people will never work out and are just better off apart. Are they still together?

In previous episodes, Emily Bieberly telling Kobe Blaise what to do made sense.

It wasn’t just that she was teaching him things — she was teaching him important things that should never be messed up.

How to change a diaper, how to put Koban in his car seat, how to please never feed whole peanuts to a 17-month-old … you need to get these right the first time.

Emily Bieberly is excited for Kobe Blaise to be done so that they can hang out

On Episode 8, however, Kobe was learning how to help out on her parents’ land.

(The reasons were so vague that we sort of get the feeling that production begged them to do something interesting, but hey, maybe Lisa really did need the help)

While Kobe shoveled some foul-smelling equine offerings in the stable, Emily was eager to be able to spend time with him.

Emily Bieberly gets bossy about how to do things

Unfortunately, she channeled this excitement into basically badgering Kobe into doing the job differently.

She was being bossy and micromanaging him on a task that is not urgent or consequential.

There are some people who prefer to be told exactly what to do and how to do it. Kobe is not one of them.

Kobe Blaise bristles after being given instructions

Emily felt that she was being “helpful” by telling Kobe how to do things faster so that they could move on to something else.

Kobe felt that she was being patronizing and annoying.

Neither of them communicated their feelings very well to each other. They became abrasive, hurt each other’s feelings, and then things got worse:

Kobe Blaise - can you just shut the f--k up?

There are simply no circumstances, outside of perhaps some specific bedroom role play, when you should tell your partner to “shut the f–k up.”

Kobe wasn’t responding to a joke or a funny story — he was demanding that Emily stop speaking to him, as rudely as possible.

This kind of line would very reasonably end friendships. It’s an outrageous way to speak to one’s fiancee … especially in front of her mom, but also in private.

Emily Bieberly has never seen this toxic side of him before

Emily was shocked, and she told the camera as much before going inside.

She had never before witnessed this side of Kobe, not in their two months in China and not in their long-distance relationship.

Is this how he is going to react during future disagreements?

Kobe Blaise - I feel like maybe it's an American thing

In the stable, Kobe very awkwardly spoke to Lisa, Emily’s mom.

Kobe seemed to miss the nuance of how rude and hostile what he had said to his fiancee had been.

He wondered if this conflict had to do with them coming from different cultures with different gender roles.

Lisa Bieberly delicately says that it's a "person" thing, her husband would never

Lisa was able to gently steer Kobe in another direction, helping him to understand her daughter’s reaction a bit better.

This wasn’t about how men and women speak in the US so much as about how one person speaks to another.

She noted that her husband would never, ever speak to her the way that Kobe had just spoken to Emily.

Emily Bieberly confronts Kobe Blaise, the two semi-apologize

When Kobe went in, the two offered each other half-apologies.

Emily didn’t seem to grasp how bossy she had been.

Kobe was more apologetic, but still didn’t give the impression that he understood the line that he had crossed.

Kobe Blaise walks with Emily Bieberly and Lisa

Before these recent disagreements, most of the conflict that we saw had more to do with the viewing audience.

Baited by the production crew and editors, misogynistic trolls have been frothing at the mouths with hatred for Emily.

From (gasp!) being honest about her sexual history with Kobe to (no!) breastfeeding her son, she made an easy target for a certain portion of viewers.

But are Emily and Kobe still together? We know that this was all filmed many months ago — likely late last year.

Many, but not all, of us would consider “shut the f–k up” an absolute relationship dealbreaker no matter what, though clearly this is not the case for Emily.

Could they still be together after multiple disputes and an exchange of such harsh words?

Kobe Blaise IG mother's day tribute 2022

Last month, Kobe and Emily hinted that they are still together.

Kobe gave a shoutout on Mother’s Day, praising all moms but singling out Emily by saying “I still got this wonderful woman.”

Emily reinforced the hint by telling him that she loves him in a comment, as you can see above. It certainly appears that they were still together very recently.

Kobe Blaise IG know your worth video still

To complicate matters, however, Kobe made a vague post to Instagram after Episode 8 aired.

“Know your worth and never feel bad to break a relationship or leave a place where you’re not appreciated,” he wrote.

“Some people are in your life for a reason,” he offered, “while others are there for a season.”

Kobe Blaise IG know your worth caption

“And,” Kobe continued, “most of the times those seasonal people in your life will make you feel like you can’t survive without them.”

He advised: “Remember God does not only bless people financially, taking someone out of your can also be a blessing. We move”

It sounds like a generic piece of advice … but is it a hint that he and Emily are over? Only time will tell.

Jibri Bell BRAWLS with Daveed Over Miona Insults on 90 Day Fiance (Recap)

90 Day Fiance Season 9, Episode 8 showed multiple couples going from bad to worse.

Jibri spends a lot of time defending his buddy Daveed to Miona, because the two do not get along.

Once there, however, Jibri and Daveed are the ones clashing … leading to a physical fight.

Ariela is trying to be supportive of Biniyam’s pie-in-the-sky UFC dreams, but she is in for a rude awakening.

Bilal and Shaeeda grapple with religious differences and very conflicting ideas about how to live and operate in their home.

Emily and Kobe are not getting along, leading to a very toxic moment that happens right in front of her family.

Kara and Guillermo’s short but sweet walk downtown highlights how common international love stories can be.

Patrick is moving to Dallas, which means that so is Thais … and, to her chagrin, John.

Finally, Mohamed is starting to make it clear that his previously stated rules for Yve were just the start — and he expects her to convert.

1. Jibri Bell and Miona Bell

Jibri bell and miona bell pack for chicago
The two start off at home in Rapid City, packing up for their trip to Chicago. Jibri laments that Miona is taking up so much space in the suitcases, but he also packs what looks like a dozen different sets of sunglasses. That is extremely Jibri of him, but it’s a pretty cute moment for them.

2. They drive to Chicago

Jibri bell defends his friend during the drive
It’s more than 900 miles (nearly 13 hours of driving), so what we saw of the drive was very abbreviated, but Jibri knows that Miona and Daveed don’t get along or like each other, but defends his buddy to Miona, asking her to give him a chance. He also details to the camera that Daveed kicked his head into a coma when they were teens (he was out for three days) after Jibri made fun of his accent. Jibri dated a girl for months only to learn that she is Daveed’s twin sister, and he and Daveed forged a lasting friendship. Totally bonkers.

3. They arrive

Jibri bell meets up with daveed dacho
Daveed promotes his truck-related business to the cameras as he and Jibri touch base. He and Miona force smiles and hug.

4. But Daveed has some advice for Jibri

Jibri bell is unhappy with pragmatic advice
He suggests that Jibri do some “real” business like he is, which Jibri does not want to hear. He accuses Daveed of sounding just like his (Jibri’s) parents. Jibri’s focus will be music, but Daveed feels that Jibri has only made a little in recent years and has seemed distracted.

5. The distraction objects to that

Miona bell defends jibri bell to daveed dacho
Miona speaks up for Jibri following his dreams. It’s a good reminder that these two do work very well together, even if they have been clashing over wedding plans.

6. Speaking of which …

Miona bell calls to inquire about a destination wedding
Miona is taken aback by how expensive this beach wedding that she wants for some reason will be. It’s three times as expensive as it would have been in Serbia. This does not deter her, however, even driving her to take the drastic step of calling to ask questions as she hopes to have a destination wedding during the K-1 visa timeframe.

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