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Kody Brown Admits Sister Wives Have Never Been Equals

Simon Delott Christine Brown

On Sunday’s episode of Sister Wives, it was clear that there were even more problems than people knew.

Kody wasn’t just having issues with Christine. He was having issues with Janelle. Things weren’t okay with his kids, either.

There had always been a “pecking order” to Kody’s wives, one that he fully acknowledges.

Robyn was simultaneously a target and a queen in the family. Christine’s experience was very different.

Sister Wives viewers saw Christine Brown express her heartbreak.

Not once had she felt like “queen wife” or “queen mom” within her plural marriage.

Instead, as the flashback reminded us, Christine had felt like she was the “basement wife.”

Christine explained that this is terminology within the polygamist community, but she hadn’t always known it.

“I put everybody first most of the time,” she admitted. “It left me running on empty and I asked him for help.”

It was only later that Christine learned those terms and realized that she had lived as a Basement Wife for many years, with her needs put last.

Stunningly, Kody seemed to understand where Christine was coming from.

“I’m carrying this load — and I’ve done it all these years — when you come in my family,” he reasoned.

Kody continued: “This is a requirement I have, is that we’re going to be one family.”

“That was like living in a fresh hell with Meri and Janelle,” Kody bluntly complained.

“Christine lightened that burden,” he admitted. “But then Christine [hit a wall].”

Kody commented: “What Christine has shrugged [in her responsibilities], Robyn was picking up.”

Kody also delved into the perceived pecking order of his wives.

“Meri was really hard on Janelle, and then Janelle and Meri were hard on Christine,” he recalled.

“And then,” Kody described, “Jenelle, Meri, and Christine were hard on Robyn.”

“And Robyn’s going, ‘Well, I didn’t do this to you. I didn’t do this, why are you this way?'” Kody noted.

“And frankly, other than Meri, I’m not sure that the others would ever want to be her friend,” he admitted.

Ouch.

Another big issue for Kody was how Janelle and Christine bucked against his extremely strict COVID precautions.

“In COVID, everybody has to make sacrifices,” he noted — and not incorrectly.

“I feel like they’ve been the biggest jack wagons about what’s been going on,” Kody then characterized about his two “middle” wives.

Many of Kody’s rules were reasonable and common-sense, like wearing a mask and avoiding sitting down at restaurants.

Others, like wiping down mail (just leave it in a basket for a few days!), were excessive and even self-defeating.

Janelle’s main concern was the way that it brought him into conflict with sons Garrison and Gabriel.

Kody admitted that things were strained and even added that he and some of his kids need family therapy.

“I want my kids around me. I love them,” he insisted.

“They want my company,” Kody noted, “but I struggle with the lack of respect they have for my leadership.”

Just for the record, “lack of respect they have for my leadership” is an unhinged way to speak as a parent.

Janelle felt that he forced her to choose between him and their kids more than once — and, as a mom, she obviously chose her children each time.

But clearly, so many of these issues already existed long before the pandemic.

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Kody Brown, Who Divorced Meri, Says He Doesn’t Believe in Divorce

Simon Delott Kody Brown

For a few years, Sister Wives was all about the dream of building a new, sprawling complex for the Brown family.

It wasn’t everyone’s dream, but it was Kody’s. It looked like it was taking place. Then everything fell apart.

On the season finale, things between Kody and Christine fell apart.

Kody declared that he didn’t believe in divorce, however. Then … what about Meri?

Kody Brown can claim that Christine blindsided him all that he wants.

His outspoken indignation doesn’t change the description that they both gave of how this went down.

Kody told Christine that he no longer wanted to have sex with her.

In his mind, he was just informing her of a new status, like telling her that he was avoiding red meat.

But while a sexless marriage seems like no big deal to Kody (after all, he put Meri through it for a decade), it’s not the same.

He could continue to have sex, because he is in a plural marriage. But he’s Christine’s only husband.

Christine clearly demonstrated that she was unsure of what to do.

She spoke about leaving Kody, but she also wasn’t sure. That’s a huge step, for many reasons.

One thing that she figured out pretty quickly, however, was that she was done having him in her room.

Soon, Kody no longer being welcome in her bedroom turned into no longer wanting him in her house.

She boxed up his belongings — his books, his clothes — that were there, storing them in the garage.

If he didn’t want to be a husband to her, then she wasn’t going to dance through a wifely charade on his behalf.

“You can leave a marriage in our church,” Christine affirmed to the cameras.

“If it’s a marraige like mine … where it’s just a spiritual marriage, they release you spiritually,” she stated.

“As far as I’m concerned,” Christine explained, “that’s just between me and God.”

Meanwhile, her newly estranged husband felt considerably less positive towards the idea of ending their marriage.

“I think I’m more afraid of what karmic value this has,” Kody said.

“The idea of divorce seems tragic, seems terrible,” he opined.

“All my faith, my belief systems, is kind of anti-divorce, I suppose,” Kody said into the camera.

“I guess that’s hypocritical,” he allowed.

Well … yes, that’s how a lot of viewers perceived the statement, as well.

Kody was married to Meri Brown, on paper, for 24 years, starting in 1990.

In 2014, they legally dissolved their marriage so that he could marry Robyn, his fourth wife.

They needed his marriage to Robyn to be legally recognized so that he could adopt her children.

Of course, there are multiple forms of divorces and multiple forms of marriages.

Marriage can hold emotional, spiritual, and religious significance without being legally recognized or binding.

We all know that a legal marriage can also lack any meaning off of paper. Life is complicated.

For generations, many LGBTQ+ Americans were unable to legally marry, but would marry anyway — without equal rights and protections.

To this day, disabled Americans are also denied marriage equality, forced to avoid legal marriages or lose life-saving benefits.

Plural relationships, from polygamists like Kody to more egalitarian polycules, are also unable to be fully recognized on paper like a monogamous marriage might.

Simply put, a marriage certificate is a formality needed for a lot of human rights.

For many, it’s the ceremony (religious or otherwise), it’s the emotional bond, and it’s the commitment that makes something a real marriage.

The same can be said of divorce.

In Kody’s mind, divorcing Meri eight years ago was an unfortunate legal necessity under a discriminatory marriage system.

It did not directly impact their spiritual marriage, though it arguably did indirectly add to the problems in their already troubled relationship.

Perhaps his statements are not as hypocritical as they initially appear.

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